AIBU that my child is not the unusual one !

[Lostmymarbles25]

group mum chat today and we were discussing the birthday parties coming up and Christmas ( they do a class secret Santa ) quite a few were suggesting the girls wanted vouchers for Sephora etc for some face cream routine stuff and some kind of elephant cream 😅 they have just gone in to year 5 so mainly 9 approaching 10.
I was explaining that for DD that she would be happy with any sort of squishy / anime surprise bags / fidget toys / rocks. This was described as unusual ?
I don’t think it’s that unusual - she would not know what Sephora is or the difference in face creams !
will she start to fall behind in what her peers are growing in to ? If I suggested face cream for Christmas she would probably cry 😂😂😂
she is not in to her dolls as much anymore but more like Sanrio character / anime figures / slime / fidgets / art sets / rocks / mini brands / mini verse etc
I don’t remember it being this unusual at this age.

Yes it's defo down to social media, tiktok in particular. My 13yo DD asked gave me her bday list a few months ago and I was gobsmacked. Dior lip oil, Drunk elephant cream and other similar ridiculous requests. I can assure you now she didn't get anything off the list except the Ariana Grande perfume, which I was OK with. It was also the cheapest 🙄

Owner of a 14 year old who unfortunately does want Dior lip oil, Drunken Elephant whatever and thinks Sephora is the magic kingdom...

No older siblings, and I have ridiculously little in the way of make up and it's more likely to be Max Factor and Oil of Olay then anything designer.

It's entirely down to social media and TikTok. Or at least whenever I ask where she's heard this nonsense about some £75 shampoo that makes your hair curly, the answer is invariably TikTok,

We have compromised on Byoma as being suitably desirable among her friends and not requiring the GDP of a small country to acquire.

At 10/11, she was still asking for dolls clothes for Christmas and lipgloss from Claires was as adult as it got.

@OhCrumbsWhereNow same. Dd only has a big brother who is definitely not into make up and me who has no clue.

It's definitely tiktok / social influence.

Took Dd to a free beauty event recently with luxury samples and she was in heaven.

She also wants loads of other things that are expensive and she doesn't get and she's fine with it. For example she's saved up all year and just bought herself some apple AirPods.

It's not a moral failing for your preteen / teen to be interested in make up and skincare even if it is expensive. It doesn't mean they're materialistic superficial kids.

By fourteen it seems more par for the course... I dunno. I don't have a fourteen-year-old yet, but from what I remember of being fourteen there were certainly girls that were very into it. Also at least some of them have skin breakouts and such by then, but not too many at ten I'd have thought.

Hummm…. Sounds like the parents are already drawing up a regift list… with themselves at the top of it!

Let her be herself, she sounds perfectly normal.

My DD is 15, her group are all into face cream, all sorts of beauty potions, ect ect. DD has zero interest in any of it. and got massively annoyed after spending 3 and a half hours in Boots while her friends deliberated over which of the latest products to buy, but was the rushed out of a bookshop after 10 minutes because the rest were board.
She's since joined the explorer scouts to expand her circle and find more kids that belong to her tribe.
So, no, beauty products aren't for everyone, and certainly not at 9 and 10. Filling their pores with products at that age is going to make their pre teen skin worse than not using anything at all!

DSD is 10 and in year 6 and would be so disappointed if she got face creams for Christmas! She is really into Pokémon and arts and crafts type stuff, I don’t think she would even know what Sephora is!

I do wonder what the negative effects may be of all these fancy creams on such young skin as well, especially if they are containing chemical exfoliants or retinoids etc, surely it can’t be good for them?!

Sephora? I wouldn't buy it for myself! The only reason my 10 year old knows it is the class Regina George, who's 11, talks about it and her "skin care routine"...and her skin is really bad. And I'd try to avoid giving young children expensive habits!

I think your child is perfectly normal. I had no idea that young children were hankering after things like face cream. The world has truly gone mad.

I have a 10 year old daughter and totally agree with this.

Exactally! I’m in my 30s and don’t worry about face cream! Bit of Nivea and I’m off x

Drunk Elephant cream it’s about £60 🙄

Sound like the mums are after a present!

My just turned 10 year old asked me to buy her some Drunk Elephant products recently . She also loves slime and squishmallows 🤷‍♀️ she's very into skincare and so am I. I'm glad she's already looking after herself. Can't see the problem , you do you .

Your daughter sounds like mine , a normal kid being a kid . Worrying about face cream routine at 9 is actually sad !

Dd3 is almost 16 and would probably not be grateful to receive face cream as a present and doesn't wear make up. Many of her friends do of course but we are all different and these differences should be respected. At age 9 or 10 even my older dds who are happy to use face creams etc would have preferred a craft kit etc.

She sounds like my dd who is 15 - she'd happily spend hours in a bookshop but any other sort of shop especially make up she'd want to be out in seconds. She loves army cadets and rock climbing- together with ballet, athletics and playing piano/ guitar. It takes all sorts!

My 10 year old now has a better skin care collection than me! Mini fridge and everything. She loved buying skincare and little organiser's to store it all in!

Possibly a tiktok thing?

I find it weird but seems they are the same as gifts for friends now involve making a goodie bag of lip gloss and face masks!

She did just ask for a new bike though so she still enjoys doing what I wpuld consider normal for her age stuff she just has good skin whilst doing it!

It was all about Rimmel Heather Shimmer lipstick and Body Shop Dewberry perfume when I was growing up! At 10 years my DD was not interested in skincare or expensive make up, your daughter sounds like she is interested in age appropriate things. Relish this time and don't worry about what other parents think is normal, they grow up so quickly and there is plenty of time for make up and skin care when they are older. She'll let you know when she is ready to start exploring that world. My DD now 15 loves make up and perfume but is also old enough to understand how much certain brands costs and makes decisions over what she wants to spend her pocket money on and will ask for more expensive items as gifts for birthdays and Christmas.

They are children, let them be children your daughter is not unusual, it's the others that are.

When I got interested in skin care at around 14 it was Anne French cleansing milk and Boots 17 orange blossom moisturiser. Not high end luxury products.

Let your daughter be whom she wants to be and enjoy what she wants, free from the constraints of ridiculous sheepish marketing. Those women seem to have no confidence and are either bowing down to their daughters who have heard about something on tiktok from their friends that they don't even understand or want, or are petrified about 'holding' them back. Ultimately their daughters will end up chasing more and more expensive products and lifestyles, lining the pockets of marketing companies, whilst struggling to find contentment. I would call out the insecure behaviour of the mother who made that comment. It was extremely rude and vacuous.

OP everything on your list is what my now 10 yr old is into. I literally would have listed the same stuff. Long may it last!!

Sounds like normal 9-10 year old things to be honest.

Not every 9 year old is a pretty-witty curly-wurly popular sort of girl in a rush to grow up.