Page 8 | Non Parents in Parent and Child parking spots

MrsM494 · 2023-10-02T21:02:08+00:00

Its really getting on my nerves how people are parking in Parent and Child spots despite not having children. I saw 3 cars like this today and 2 the other week. I watched one woman act sheepishly as she saw me struggle to take my toddler and baby out of my car in a regular parking spot, whilst she (with no children) parked in a parent and child spot. I don't want to be confrontational but would I be in the wrong to ask people to park better?!

Screamingabdabz · 03/10/2023 22:04

I haven’t got kids but it still annoys the fuck out of me when I see the gym bros in their big swanky cars just pull in with absolutely no shame whatsoever. I blame the car park designers though. They should put those spots slightly further away so lazy fucking entitled childless men won’t abuse them.

Mummytotheboy · 03/10/2023 22:33

I work for one of the major supermarkets and I think they should rename the spaces parent and carseat. If your child is big enough to be out of a car seat or a booster you don't need an accessible space. They should also move them to the furthest point away and have a fenced walkway. They could also have times when they are just spaces. So between 8pm and 7am they are for anyone to park in. Parent and child spaces arent in demand at 3am! I had a complaint one night at 9pm that they was full (I work customer service in a supermarket) Im sorry but most people would say if your children are old enough to be out at 9pm on a school night they dont need a parent and child space. People wouldn't park in them if they wasn't as convenient. It does piss me off and this comes from the parent of a toddler the sense of entitlement people have over these spaces. I live near a zoo and a outdoor adventure park. All aimed at children under 12. Not one parent space. No one complains. The hospital my son was born in as a massive children's hospital, huge maternity unit and nicu. No parent and child spaces exist in that hospital. You just find one on the end of a row and get on with it!

Cantdodaytimetv · 03/10/2023 23:13

I have confronted people when my dc were small in their carseat and you cannot get the carry seat in and out of the car in a normal space. Some apologised and moved, some looked at me as if I was mad. I would tend to leave the spaces for people who needed them for this reason, once dc were older and i was lifting just
them in and out and a normal space was fine for that.

WeHaveChocIcesInTheFreezer · 04/10/2023 00:17

This drives me insane too, and is very much a hill I’m willing to die on!

I’ve got 5 month old twins and cannot safely get them both out and into the pram in a regular spot. It makes my blood boil when I have to wait for a parent and child spot, to then watch adults on their own swan out and into their car taking up one of these spots.

XenoBitch · 04/10/2023 00:18

WeHaveChocIcesInTheFreezer · 04/10/2023 00:17

This drives me insane too, and is very much a hill I’m willing to die on!

I’ve got 5 month old twins and cannot safely get them both out and into the pram in a regular spot. It makes my blood boil when I have to wait for a parent and child spot, to then watch adults on their own swan out and into their car taking up one of these spots.

Can you not park in an end space?

Yestostructure · 04/10/2023 00:22

Electrictache · 03/10/2023 20:35

@Yestostructure use a child lock and open the door for your child.

Yes my 9 year old would love that.....don't worry he's been well warned now, but the extra space lessens the risk of it happening again.....and if it's in a regular space I open the door for the kids. The original incident actually happened in a parent and child space in Asda. Their ones are not as defined at the others and the other massive SUV type car was right at their line line....the car door wasn't even marked but they insisted on there being a dent and claimed it anyway....a body shop will take an insurance job any day, I suppose.

The main reason I use them is for my three year old whom I'm still navigating in and out of a car seat....Hope that clears it up.

Screwballs · 04/10/2023 07:51

hideundermyduvet2023 · 02/10/2023 22:48

Please do it now

11 yo qualifies you in most supermarkets don't strain yourself, could easily cause some damage to your back squeezing into cars with a big bump.

I rather enjoyed the convenience of parking in one at the weekend without my kids with me. I was a teeny bit disappointed I didn't get the evils from anyone 😂😂 Seriously though it was 7am and no one there but still.....

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11 year old, that is, as a standalone, taking the piss. If your NT 11 year old cant cope with not running into the road, you've not done your job.

Certainlyreally · 04/10/2023 08:24

chocolatemademefat · 03/10/2023 15:12

Oh my god - how many more of these tedious threads? Does everyone who ever had a child feel compelled to write one and get the exact same replies every time? Mumsnet is not what it used to be.

This is pretty much how it's always been

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/ami_being_unreasonable/1695110-AIBU-to-tell-people-off-who-park-in-parent-child-spaces-but-have-no-children-with-them

February 2013

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1200645-To-think-there-should-be-an-age-limit-on-parent-and-child-parking
2011

Londontown12 · 04/10/2023 10:05

MaydinEssex · 03/10/2023 00:09

I am disabled due to extensive osteoarthritis and have a blue badge, I also use a mobility scooter to go around the shop, so when all the disabled spaces are taken, we will park in the parent and child space as my husband needs room to get my scooter out, I've often witnessed people without blue badges parking in disabled bays which is really annoying, I don't like having to park in the parent and child spaces but we do need extra room, more than a parent with a child who is able to walk unaided.

I had to do this yesterday at Sainsbury’s no disabled bays left So used the parent and child which there was more spots than disabled !
And the person who says they should put them further away from store that’s the whole point when u struggle to walk being to far away is impossible when disabled ! X

Londontown12 · 04/10/2023 10:08

tamade · 03/10/2023 06:30

I don’t know why they don’t move the disabled and “parent and child” etc spaces a bit further away from the shops that way they would be less attractive to selfish knobs. A row is spaces right next to the store could be reserved for “arrogant selfish knobs” with a big sign and arrow stating such

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Your obviously not disabled lol 😂 that’s why we get near store spots because sometimes I can’t walk x

Whatdoesitmeann · 04/10/2023 10:58

I saw two grown men sat in a car in the parent and child spaces yesterday. When I got back to my car they were still there but I saw they were playing with Pokémon cards. Clearly they deserve to be called children 😂

Mrsbee123456 · 04/10/2023 11:07

I always look shocked and say to my husband "oh my god I think that man has left his baby in the car!!"
Nerver get a reaction, I occasionally will just look at the person like I hope they spontaneously combust in front of me so I can watch. One day though I'm gonna start a fight and my bail go-fund-me will be on the news 😩

It's the one thing in life I believe is a big clue to your character, I think anyone who parks in one who doesn't have kids with them (that get out the car) or a blue badge is an inconsiderate a**hole.
But in answer to your question, probably not worth starting an argument with a stranger but at the same time... Imagine if we all did it? Called out this behaviour whenever we seen it? There's probably more of us than there are of them we could start a revolution!

whatnot929 · 04/10/2023 11:12

HongKongGarden · 03/10/2023 19:27

Anyone can. It doesn’t stop them being an arsehole for doing it though.

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A person with a blue badge in the P& C space is not an arsehole. You are though.
You're disgusting.

HongKongGarden · 04/10/2023 11:17

whatnot929 · 04/10/2023 11:12

A person with a blue badge in the P& C space is not an arsehole. You are though.
You're disgusting.

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Of course they are. They are taking a space that has been set aside for someone else to use.

Parker231 · 04/10/2023 11:18

Londontown12 · 04/10/2023 10:05

I had to do this yesterday at Sainsbury’s no disabled bays left So used the parent and child which there was more spots than disabled !
And the person who says they should put them further away from store that’s the whole point when u struggle to walk being to far away is impossible when disabled ! X

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I would convert all the spaces nearer to the store to blue badge disabled spaces and set up parent and child spaces at the far end of the parking - usually quieter and won’t hurt to walk to the store.

whatnot929 · 04/10/2023 11:19

HongKongGarden · 04/10/2023 11:17

Of course they are. They are taking a space that has been set aside for someone else to use.

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Blue badge trumps your kid. Get a hold of yourself. Try being a human.

Cosyblankets · 04/10/2023 11:22

Mrsbee123456 · 04/10/2023 11:07

I always look shocked and say to my husband "oh my god I think that man has left his baby in the car!!"
Nerver get a reaction, I occasionally will just look at the person like I hope they spontaneously combust in front of me so I can watch. One day though I'm gonna start a fight and my bail go-fund-me will be on the news 😩

It's the one thing in life I believe is a big clue to your character, I think anyone who parks in one who doesn't have kids with them (that get out the car) or a blue badge is an inconsiderate a**hole.
But in answer to your question, probably not worth starting an argument with a stranger but at the same time... Imagine if we all did it? Called out this behaviour whenever we seen it? There's probably more of us than there are of them we could start a revolution!

But you don't know if they are picking up a child. Just because they arrive without one
I used to take a disabled relative shopping . I would legitimately park in the disabled space, take him to a cafe in the shop, do the shopping, take it back to the car and then go and get him. While i was putting the shopping in the car he wasn't with me so it may have looked like there wasn't a disabled person with me.
You get on with your own life and mind your own business

Mrsbee123456 · 04/10/2023 11:31

But you do though let's be real? Who is picking up a baby from a supermarket in a sports car with no car seat? You just know don't you when you see an entitled man clearly taking the p* and in all honesty, if you weren't taking the mick and you were going into the shop to pick up a baby (?) then you'd say something back to me wouldn't you? You'd turn round and be "actually!" but no one ever does... And I'm gonna continue minding my business and saying something to these people until I actually do get it wrong, coz I don't think I will. You can see blue badges, you can tell people with mobility issues and it's quite obvious when there's no form of child seat in the car. This is a hill I'll die on coz of people like you 😂😂😂

Wild how mumsnet posters love whataboutery and basically don't want mothers to have any form of help from wider society at all in life 🙄🙄

PhantomUnicorn · 04/10/2023 11:31

If people are genuinely bothered, report it to security, it isn't your job to police the spaces.

Purpledaisies4 · 04/10/2023 11:33

Sirzy · 03/10/2023 16:56

Somebody with a blue badge can park in whichever space they feel is best for them. They don’t have to justify it to you or anyone else.

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Maybe i didnt explain clearly, I have absolutely no problem whatsoever with a disabled person/ people using parent & child spaces no matter their age, their need is greater than mine but surely anyone with an ounce of common sense/ common curtesy would of actually considered other people & used the free disabled spaces when there were plenty of free disabled spaces available 🤔 They also would not of had to walk across the road as the disabled spaces are along the front of the store whereas the child spaces are across the road. Just seems logical to me 🤷‍♀️

BodegaSushi · 04/10/2023 11:39

I don’t know why they don’t move the disabled and “parent and child” etc spaces a bit further away from the shops that way they would be less attractive to selfish knobs.

😂😂😂

literally would defeat the purpose of a disabled spot, you know, for people who struggle with mobility?

Mrsbee123456 · 04/10/2023 11:39

People saying "it's not your job to police the spaces" are missing that the reason people don't commit crimes isn't because there's police policing all the time, it's because of society and what is acceptable and the risk of being caught and severity of punishment etc. There is nothing at all stopping people from being trash humans and parking in p&c spaces, there's no getting caught, there's no punishment so the one thing that would stop people is how society views people who do it.

And while everyone here is making excuses for people you're basically saying its more important that a person parks wherever they want and no one says anything incase there's a decent reason than people actually speak up and say 'hey, this is for mothers and fathers who need it! This is for the kids to keep them safe! This is not for just anyone, this is to help people who need it'!!!

Society isn't kind to mothers in general I think it's time mothers start being vocal about people who don't deserve it taking the odd privilege we've been afforded.

Cosyblankets · 04/10/2023 11:41

Mrsbee123456 · 04/10/2023 11:31

But you do though let's be real? Who is picking up a baby from a supermarket in a sports car with no car seat? You just know don't you when you see an entitled man clearly taking the p* and in all honesty, if you weren't taking the mick and you were going into the shop to pick up a baby (?) then you'd say something back to me wouldn't you? You'd turn round and be "actually!" but no one ever does... And I'm gonna continue minding my business and saying something to these people until I actually do get it wrong, coz I don't think I will. You can see blue badges, you can tell people with mobility issues and it's quite obvious when there's no form of child seat in the car. This is a hill I'll die on coz of people like you 😂😂😂

Wild how mumsnet posters love whataboutery and basically don't want mothers to have any form of help from wider society at all in life 🙄🙄

People like me?

BodegaSushi · 04/10/2023 11:41

HongKongGarden · 04/10/2023 11:17

Of course they are. They are taking a space that has been set aside for someone else to use.

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Back again from the dungeons I see

BodegaSushi · 04/10/2023 11:44

Mrsbee123456 · 04/10/2023 11:39

People saying "it's not your job to police the spaces" are missing that the reason people don't commit crimes isn't because there's police policing all the time, it's because of society and what is acceptable and the risk of being caught and severity of punishment etc. There is nothing at all stopping people from being trash humans and parking in p&c spaces, there's no getting caught, there's no punishment so the one thing that would stop people is how society views people who do it.

And while everyone here is making excuses for people you're basically saying its more important that a person parks wherever they want and no one says anything incase there's a decent reason than people actually speak up and say 'hey, this is for mothers and fathers who need it! This is for the kids to keep them safe! This is not for just anyone, this is to help people who need it'!!!

Society isn't kind to mothers in general I think it's time mothers start being vocal about people who don't deserve it taking the odd privilege we've been afforded.

They’re not going to get caught and punished because it’s not a crime. HTH.