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Would you wait for this person?

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DatingDisaster784 · 02/10/2023 16:37

Been dating someone for a year, I love them very much, they say they feel the same but there’s a massive issue -

We live 2 hours away from each other, they have a busy work schedule and a weekly sports commitment (think playing for a team) and they admit they don’t know when they are going to be able to make time for me or when they are going to be able to make me priority (they still make plans with friends and family just struggle to make any with me).

Would you wait for this person’s life to settle down a bit because you love them or move on?

OP posts:
Olika · 04/10/2023 13:37

Well done OP 👏

sodthesodoff · 04/10/2023 13:40

DatingDisaster784 · 04/10/2023 13:35

@MyJetNowAirlines The funny thing is, is that now I’ve actually got to the point where I suddenly almost switched off because of how angry I am about how they’ve treated me, I don’t think I actually feel as strongly for them as I thought I did - I think I was scared of just being alone again and having to start from scratch and worrying about being good enough to find someone else. So now I can see it from almost a detached point of view, they were nothing special in the first place and I definitely romanticised it more in my head than the actual reality of them! X

I know it's pretty rough now but this is the best update ever. It shows such insight. And I'm genuinely so happy that you've reached this point.

You really do deserve better and with this attitude you're already on the way Flowers

MustGetOutofBed · 04/10/2023 14:01

Well done 👏 @DatingDisaster784
I'm sure it's tough now, but it'll all work out for the best.
Take care 💐

StarlightLady · 04/10/2023 14:15

I think I was a bigger priority than that when I see was seeing someone which had to involve a flight.

ManateeFair · 04/10/2023 14:22

Move on. They don't want the kind of relationship that you want, and are trying to tell you that you're not a priority. The rest of their life is more important to them than you are; they don't love you.

Cabriana · 04/10/2023 16:19

I think you need some sign of commitment from him at this point. You owe yourself that much

griegwithhimandhim · 04/10/2023 16:24

Well done. Onwards and upwards! Flowers Cake

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