Why is there so little resources for lonely women?

[DidIMissOut]

I’ve been looking for any help/support/place to even talk about loneliness.
Actual physical loneliness, being single and childless in my 30’s has left me really isolated in the world and I just wanted to at least talk about it a little, see if anyone else is going through what I am and maybe support each other.

But it so hard to find anything!
Most loneliness articles are only about men, leaving women out.
Online when I try to find something it’s either filled with men being angry at women, saying they don’t believe women can be lonely or they staight up say they are men’s only groups (that’s totally fine, I just wish there were something to women also).

Anything that is more women heavy, is filled with women who have husbands and twelve kids sating how lonely they are.
We can’t help each other, vecause we don’t understand each other AT ALL.

Books tend to be about, once again from men’s pov, for them, and thei isolation (usually those are also about how to not be or become an addict, violent, anti-women etc, so there’s nothing for me)

Bews are often worried about linely people, those always turn out to be about boys/young men.

It leaves me/women like me, outside of the outsiders.
And that just makes me feel even more worthless…
And have nowhere to turn to.

OK, so thinking about the expat comparison, and just wanting someone that 'gets' you and that you don't have to explain yourself to.
(I've been an expat too, for a couple of years, but 20 yrs ago when I had no ties).

How do you get there? If you are in what you think is a 'strange land' for you, do you wait for the perfect person, or handful of people, and hope that that small pool will, at some time, find themselves in circumstances where it's great to be safe to deepen intimacy or vulnerability to reveal your similarities in the field of loneliness? OK, that's one possibility.

Or you could do that with someone who is not necessarily going to be a friend - a coach, a therapist? So that vulnerability is not churning inside every potential meeting.

Questions.
You see yourself from the inside. How do you think others see you, experience your interactions? Along with those you think will 'get' you, 'others' include...everyone else. If you are an expat, yes, perhaps most people will think of you as 'the Brit' (and perhaps not quite correctly), but you can't look down on them for that. Here, people might feel fine telling you you're prickly - that could be part of the story but by no means the whole deal. Of course not.

When you notice, or find something to like about somebody, how do you do that most? For me, I think it's often when they are in conversation with other people, not even me mostly, or, especially, teaching people (mainly due to my job). Face to face. Not just type on a screen. If you're silent, and 'curating' your thoughts, it's less easy I find - or too easy, in writing. Fewer clues. As an introvert, I have to practice relationships. I really do lose heart and anchorage fast if I don't.

Hmm, take your own advice sometimes, Ormally.