Do you enjoy staying with friends in their houses? Do you get relieved when you come home after being away?

[amijustantisocial]

I'm concluding that I find this really stressful. I love my best mate a lot, and we had a lovely visit in many ways, but there's just something about staying with others that I find tiring.

Staying in hotels or self catering cottages is better for me I think, but even then no matter how great a time we have I'm always so glad to get home to my own bed/ flat/ stuff.

Does this sound familiar to anyone else?

I feel it's important to mention I am really grateful for the invitations - I genuinely love my friends, they aren't the problem, I just need space I think.

Yeah, I don't get that feeling of needing to be "on" either. We go to bed when we want to, don't feel any pressure to stay up later or in company than I want to or to be up super early.

That's what I mean about us all being relaxed. I've never felt pressure to be doing anything different than I would be at home

We go to bed when we want to, don't feel any pressure to stay up later or in company than I want to or to be up super early.

Yes, that's how it is when I stay with my best friend for example. We just kind of do our own thing.

It's not something to do with behaviour or expectations.

But there is an added layer of being conscious of the presence of other people and the meshing of daily living activities, which sounds ridiculous but can't really express it any better than that.

I hate it so much. Other people's houses always have some weird little thing that irritates me about them like

No lock on the bathroom door
Their ensuite containing the only shower
Bathroom on the ground floor only
Limited seating meaning 3 people have to share the sofa
Odd bed or waking times
Etc etc.

I will always get a hotel if possible.

Hah, this thread is enlightening. When I moved into this house and had 2 spare rooms, I dedicated one to being a spare room, kept made up and ready to go at short notice for visits and now I find its contentious for some! The second spare room otherwise had no use, I don't want stuff for the sake of it. I've not quite managed it in my short stay, I'm buying a place atm, but it'll be a goal for the next one, but I wanted to make it as much visitor friendly as possible.

Nope I don't do this, I find it exhausting mentally. I am a really social person but that is only because I can recharge in my own space.

In answer to your question, apart from the above and just not feeling comfortable, it's not wanting to intrude on someone's routine, I like an early night, I want to sit and not speak but you can't do that in someone else's house! Luckily I have three little ones including a tiny squalling one so no one would currently offer for us to stay. Thank God.

I really don't like it any more, apart from an honourable mention for aunt Pam who has an amazing guest suite with it's own bathroom and a cleaner, so no worries about stripping the bed etc.

We recently had visitors and it was mornings I found tricky, really can't cope with other people unless I've had a run or coffee or ideally both. We have more visitors arriving tomorrow until Sunday, which I feel is a long time to stay with someone.

I hate staying in other people's houses - even family.

😂

Yes I like staying with friends. Yes I like getting home. The two are not mutually exclusive.

Yes I’m a complete odd ball when it comes to this.

I hate staying over with people. Even if it’s just one night. Much prefer my own space or my own plus my family’s space.

I also hate people staying with me. Love to host. But please go home at the end of the night so I can tidy up and get my space back 😅 I have a large house too.

I wished I was different. I guess I’m an introvert and get my energy from my down time and my own space.

any tips to change this up are welcome.

but my bestie lives 4 hrs away now

I avoid staying at other people's houses. I wouldn't be able to relax properly. I don't mind seeing friends during the day but I'd go to the nearest hotel for the night.

Staying with other people is fun, but I can't relax properly unless I'm home.

I don't hate it but a holiday to me is hotels, staying with people I know is just staying with people I know no offence to them but not exciting