Do you enjoy staying with friends in their houses? Do you get relieved when you come home after being away?

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I'm concluding that I find this really stressful. I love my best mate a lot, and we had a lovely visit in many ways, but there's just something about staying with others that I find tiring.

Staying in hotels or self catering cottages is better for me I think, but even then no matter how great a time we have I'm always so glad to get home to my own bed/ flat/ stuff.

Does this sound familiar to anyone else?

Nope, all my friends are relaxed and make us feel the same when we stay. Hopefully we do the same for them.

I don't mind it, everything depends on the purpose and duration. I have sometimes got this wrong and not liked it for reasons similar to what others have put.

I am always thankful to be home, wherever I go and however long for, though. There's only so long I can be out of my usual routines and habits

Things that make this more agreeable for me and my friends:
Having an agreed end time, eg a specific train.
The host not lying in all morning, I end up wanting to just sneak out.
Knowing when we’re going to eat - generally eating out is better.
Having own beds.
Lack of kids, husbands/partners and pets.

I don't like it at all

I always pass on that one. If I have to stay away I'll use an hotel.

Sil often can't be bothered with dinner 😳🤔 and the house is too hot, I always end up with a racing pulse when I'm there.

Nah.

I love having close friends and family to stay but because we have the biggest family and house I never stay with anyone else which is a bit strange I guess but suits me tbh. I do get a bit twitchy after a few days and a week is definitely a bit too long

No, I love staying with friends and having them come to stay with me. Staying with family on the other hand...

I only like to spend specific amounts of time with people, where I have a good idea of the start and finish, like lunch or dinner.

I don't like being sociable for protracted periods of time, so staying overnight at someone's house where I have to interact all the time is a something I dread.

That said - overnight - hosting is just as bad!

The only time I can do this is with staying at my daughter's house or having her and her family to stay with us.
Anyone else that I didn't know so well would fill me with dread. OH has occasionally met up with old school friends and said, "Oh you must come and stay with us etc etc" That won't be happening!

Hate it and hate people in my house. Pressure to be chirpy and talk. Also I get up during the night for the toilet and make tea. I know someone who loves boasting about her money and lifestyle. When she comes back to this country her and her family squeeze into her dad's tiny terraced house. 1 bathroom between 8 people. Madness

No and Yes.

Ok I must be weird 😂

Our summer holiday this year was spent at my mum's, my MIL's and a friend's.

For context, we don't live in the same country as them.

It was sooooo nice to have space and toys/games/books. My niece & nephew live with MIL so my kids have someone to play with; same as at my friend's.

In a hotel I find we're cramped and have no space and have to go to restaurants which can be stressful with my kids sometimes. In an Airbnb I have to bring toys/games etc. whereas this way there were people to play with and new stuff.

I would much rather get a hotel, I HATE staying in other people's houses. The next morning is excruciating.

I don't like it either! If you don't have an en-suite, it's awkward to figure out the shower, bumping into people in the hallway in your pjs. And then there's the awkwardness of what time to get up? If you're an early riser, is it ok to make yourself a coffee? All sorts of potential ways to make a faux pas!

We've just organised Christmas with extended family on other side of the country and quickly booked a Premier Inn before anyone could invite us to stay 😂

I love my friends, I love my family, but god I fucking hate staying in other peoples houses (or them staying in mine)

Yes, I prefer to stay in a hotel. Even with close friends. I'm an introvert and need alone time and my own space. I also don't like to feel indebted to someone (even if that sounds ridiculous, I still feel it) a nd I can never switch off.

I hate it with a passion. I finally had to tell one relative very nicely that no offense but I just couldn’t stay at her house any more because I get too hot at night ‘it’s not you it’s me’ thing. Except it’s not just me, she keeps it bloody boiling at night and I just can’t take it. After you’ve taken everything off there is nothing to take off anymore! We did laugh about it, she made it plain she wasn’t going to do any differently (not that she should) and I made it plain I couldn’t take the heat so now we blissfully stay at an air bnb where I turn it down as low as I want and sleep well.

We had the heating problem at PiLs. They are in their 80s and really feel the cold so have the heating blaring from 6.30 in the morning till 10.30 at night.
I used to go to bed with a headache and wake up with one every single day we styed there. Now we just say we'll stay in a hotel nearby so as not to give them too much work.

Like a sleepover 😅 I don’t sleep at my friends’ houses. I don’t know any adults who do. We all have our own houses, kids, dogs to look after 🤷🏼‍♀️

It really depends on the person and how comfortable I feel around them. My bf is an extremely good host and has a lovely home. I also feel more myself with her than anyone else.

I quit like staying round people's house though.

Yes and yes! I like going to stay with people. It's a little holiday. And then I like coming home and having my things just right. But you don't get that joy without going away.

Similarly for people coming to stay. I look forward to looking after them and I look forward to having my space back.

My friends are relaxed too though, it isn't that. Laidback and welcoming and kind, with a comfortable house large enough for us all.

It's something more complicated about personal space and needing to be properly alone I think. And not "on" as others have said.

I love being at my friends houses and chilling/eating/drinking etc but I will always get a taxi home. I like waking up in my own bed.

I guess it is a sleepover yes 😀

I live abroad, and visit home a couple of times a year. I also have friends and family members scattered through different countries.

So we are away from home and either book something, or accept their invitations to stay!