Do you enjoy staying with friends in their houses? Do you get relieved when you come home after being away?

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I'm concluding that I find this really stressful. I love my best mate a lot, and we had a lovely visit in many ways, but there's just something about staying with others that I find tiring.

Staying in hotels or self catering cottages is better for me I think, but even then no matter how great a time we have I'm always so glad to get home to my own bed/ flat/ stuff.

Does this sound familiar to anyone else?

I don't really like it much, you can't do what you want and none of your stuff is there. I'd rather be in a hotel or in my own house.

I like having people stay at my place. I also like staying at theirs if I know them well and am comfortable, although I don't like it quite as much as the other way round. There's always the slight discomfort of 'can I make myself a coffee? how do I use the shower?' etc. I still enjoy it though.

I don't like staying at other people's homes including my parents home where I grew up. MIL's house is fine though, as I lived there in my 20s but she lives in my area so not much reason to stay there.Though I feel like I can't justify a hotel room every time I fly over! I usually get a hotel room for all other instances though when I visit others.

I have never hosted as I live in a 2 bed flat with DH which is quite small (and we only bought it 4 years ago so half of that time was the pandemic era) and now my pets are in there. My lack of love for guests makes me think sometimes that upgrading to a 3 bed flat would be a waste of money even though I would love more space as I don't WFH, DH does it only 2-3 times a week, I am planning on only one child and I am not sure how long my pets would live (or whether I would replace them when they are gone) .

What are the chances I would enjoy having people to stay if I don't even like staying at other people's homes! I like eating at other people's homes and I do often invite people over to eat.

I find it really draining. Same as when people stay at our house. Prefer to avoid if possible!

I loved it when I was young - and I loved having friends to stay. Absolutely loved it!

Sadly, the passing years have taken this pleasure away and I now only have overnight guests if there's no alternative and am very resistant to staying with others. It's a mixture of liking my own bed, being aware of the trouble the host will need to go to, not having my own way about watching telly or having any alone time etc etc. I was much more lively and sociable when young, but now I find wall-to-wall socialising drains me and I can't wait to get away.

Love a coffee, lunch or dinner date at my house or someone else's, though.

Just getting older and more stuck in my ways, I'm afraid!

I have grown to hate it too. I just need my own space. Not have to worry about how many times I go to the loo in the night etc. Only fine at my parents.

Also hate having guests- it caused problems with DH at first as he loves inviting all and sundry over (often with little notice) last time it went down so badly that he’s stopped doing to thank goodness. But it was a battle.

Live having people over for dinner or going to others houses. Then going home.. to my own bed.

So relieved when I come home. And I never feel clean even once I've had a shower. So strange. Although I like hotels etc😂

This is great, I thought it was just me. I really hate staying with other people except v close family. Relatives get offended I don’t stay with them but like others have said I find it exhausting making small talk and just want some down time. Particularly hate trying to use the bathroom/shower so as not to interfere with their routine, being sociable at breakfast, having no control over food, timings, temperature etc. I always book a hotel or air bnb nearby.

I hate staying in other people's houses, be they close family or friends. I used to avoid doing sleepovers as much as possible as kids which meant I struggled sleeping anywhere that wasn't my bed well into adulthood. I'm better at it now as long as I get my own bedroom and don't have to share a room with another relative as has been the case a few times so I can do my own thing. I still hate it and can't relax. Would much rather stay in a hotel each time so I can unwind and have time to myself and get ready without having to keep an eye on a door to make sure no little child visitor whilst changing.

However much I love someone I can’t share space with them for more than a couple of nights at the very most - as a host or as a guest. Sometimes less. It’s as if a switch flips in my brain & I’ve suddenly had enough.

Hotels are most definitely the way to go.

I never stay at other people’s houses, except my parents. I’m too old and often find staying over too much time with people. I am a big fan of a mid point meet up with friends. Spending the day with people is usually enough time to catch up!

My first instinct was to reply that I don't like it then I realized that I have never actually stayed in a friend's house which is quite odd in itself. People have on occasion stayed with me however. I have stayed with family so a total weirdo

I always feel I should be helping more. And then I get worried that I'm interfering when I offer to help

Yes, this!
I rarely accept invitations as a Guest of someone.. because I don't want the stress of having to return the favour!

I used to love it,but as soon as peri-meno started I went right off it. Staying with family is OK, but I prefer my own bed.

i stay at my best friends sometimes and I find it exhausting as I am tidy and organised and she isn't lol

I spend so much time faffing about tidying
and waiting for her whilst she endlessly looks for her keys/phone/1 shoe/bag/cleans the fish quickly etc

I absolutely hate staying at other people's homes. Hate. It.

This is a massive part of it for me too.

I hate staying with other people full stop because I fear that I am too much. A little bit of me goes a long way, so it's safer for our friendships to keep that distance. My mum is exactly the same - no matter how poor we are, we will always spend money on a taxi home or separate hotel rooms.

This is how I feel. Equally, it's difficult to have other people (bar a few very close friends) staying over because I feel I should always be 'on' in these situations as well.

I enjoy staying with my best friend of over 20 years, just for a night when it's only us two. I wouldn't enjoy it if her partner was there too as I would have to feel "on" and make small talk.

I don’t like staying in other people’s homes and I really hate having people to stay.

I’m a sociable introvert. I love seeing friends and family but I need to balance it with time away from people.

Hate it.

Especially if you're hosted on a temporary bed/sleeping arrangement.

I get people do this to say money for the visitors. But honestly I'd rather pay and get some sleep.

Sharing their bathroom. Disrupting their routine or having to fit with their routine is also very awkward.

I don’t know why but I constantly worry I’ve messed myself or started bleeding or something like that. I check every chair and bed I stand up from compulsively when I’m away from home. Never had an issue or known anyone that did so no idea why it’s such a fear and compulsion.

Probably explains why I pack like I’m going to shit myself twice a day and might get invited to a job interview and black tie gala on the same one night trip.

This!