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caerdydd12 · 2023-09-26T11:47:12+00:00

I've bought a dress from Vinted. I don't want to share the exact dress as the photo is of the dress being worn by the seller and that seems unfair so I've googled and found a very similar one. The one I've bought has slightly more sage green and fewer white spaces. Is this ok to wear as a wedding guest do you think? Is there too much white? I'd have no concerns wearing it to a wedding of a family member etc because my family are very casual about this stuff but I only know the groom at this wedding so no idea what the general consensus would be from the other guests. Opinions appreciated. If it's not acceptable I've got a couple of christenings I could wear it to later this year so it's not a loss.

NoGNoDNoClue · 26/09/2023 13:14

That dress is much less white. Go for it!

Devilsmommy · 26/09/2023 13:14

@MrsSkylerWhite 😆😆😆😆

ErrolTheDragon · 26/09/2023 13:17

Looks fine to me. I'd avoid white shoes/accessories (mainly because they're often a bit naff/impractical though).

Christmasusernamepending · 26/09/2023 13:26

save it for the christening. I wouldn't wear to a wedding.

Henbags · 26/09/2023 13:37

It’s fine. I recently got married 2.5 weeks ago and if a guest was wearing that I wouldn’t have given two shits, people need to get a grip. Don’t forget people like to stir just for the sake of it on here, so don’t worry about it.

Islandsadness · 26/09/2023 13:39

Unless it's a spring wedding, I don't think it's right.

MrsMarzetti · 26/09/2023 13:40

I wouldn't

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caerdydd12 · 26/09/2023 13:40

Still seems very much 50/50.
I could order a few other options but my budget isn't huge (hence Vinted), I'm currently pregnant and don't want to spend good money on something that won't fit soon.

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CinnamonBear · 26/09/2023 13:40

It's perfect for a spring or summer wedding. There really isn't that much white in it

Purplecatshopaholic · 26/09/2023 13:41

MrsSkylerWhite · 26/09/2023 13:00

Very pretty. Really don’t understand the not wearing any white thing at all.

Totally fine. Lovely dress.

Lindy2 · 26/09/2023 13:57

It's absolutely fine for a wedding.

It doesn't look like a wedding dress. No one will confuse you for the bride.

Wear it and have a lovely time.

MrsClatterbuck · 26/09/2023 13:57

Absolutely fine to wear to a wedding. No one and I mean no one is going to mistake you for the bride. This obsession with having absolutely no white on a wedding outfit is ridiculous tbh. I would add strong coloured accessories.

I once wore a black velvet suit with white blouse with frilly collar to a wedding this was the eighties and the only person annoyed was the bride's sil as she also was wearing a black wollen suit.

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caerdydd12 · 26/09/2023 14:08

MrsClatterbuck · 26/09/2023 13:57

Absolutely fine to wear to a wedding. No one and I mean no one is going to mistake you for the bride. This obsession with having absolutely no white on a wedding outfit is ridiculous tbh. I would add strong coloured accessories.

I once wore a black velvet suit with white blouse with frilly collar to a wedding this was the eighties and the only person annoyed was the bride's sil as she also was wearing a black wollen suit.

I agree nobody will mistake me for the bride, but I was confused as to whether that's why you shouldn't wear white or if it's just a blanket "no white dresses" regardless.

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fettuccini · 26/09/2023 14:51

Your updated pic, it looks lovely and very wedding appropriate. Not too much white and no one will mistake you for the bride because... well you're not the bride 😆! I am committing the next wedding attire sin and wearing black to the next wedding I've been invited to!

LittleLlama · 26/09/2023 14:55

I think it is a lovely dress - perfect for a wedding.

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caerdydd12 · 26/09/2023 15:13

fettuccini · 26/09/2023 14:51

Your updated pic, it looks lovely and very wedding appropriate. Not too much white and no one will mistake you for the bride because... well you're not the bride 😆! I am committing the next wedding attire sin and wearing black to the next wedding I've been invited to!

I would LOVE to wear black, 99.9% of my wardrobe is black haha. I just wasn't sure if I'd stick out even more in black and I'm feeling quite self conscious lately anyway!

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Purplecatshopaholic · 26/09/2023 15:20

Is it an English thing, this no-white rule? I have only been to weddings in Scotland - many over the years - and worn most colours at one point or other including things that were white/ivory/cream, also black many times. Never ever have I heard it’s an issue…

ErrolTheDragon · 26/09/2023 15:24

Purplecatshopaholic · 26/09/2023 15:20

Is it an English thing, this no-white rule? I have only been to weddings in Scotland - many over the years - and worn most colours at one point or other including things that were white/ivory/cream, also black many times. Never ever have I heard it’s an issue…

There is no such 'rule'.

BriocheForBreakfast · 26/09/2023 15:25

Honestly I don't know why anyone thinks it's unsuitable for a wedding. I think it's a lovely dress OP and would go for it.

CinnamonBear · 26/09/2023 15:30

Purplecatshopaholic · 26/09/2023 15:20

Is it an English thing, this no-white rule? I have only been to weddings in Scotland - many over the years - and worn most colours at one point or other including things that were white/ivory/cream, also black many times. Never ever have I heard it’s an issue…

It's not just an English rule. White is a no go in other countries as well.

There are enough threads about guests wearing white and even full on wedding dresses on MN. My personal favourites are mothers wearing full on wedding dresses - why do women do that?!

NigelHarmansNewWife · 26/09/2023 15:30

hotcandle · 26/09/2023 13:01

It's lovely but I definitely wouldn't wear that to a wedding.

Especially in photography, you'll find the pattern will be lost, and it will look like you're wearing a pure white dress.

Nonsense and it'll be bloody obvious the bride is the one in the middle in the wedding dress.

Honestly sometimes the responses on here are off the scale. The only thing I remember about what guests wore at my wedding is two of them had the exact same dress and matching jacket. Both looked lovely, but I think they avoided each other!

Cheeesus · 26/09/2023 15:30

I’d be borderline about your original one, but the actual dress is fine. Looks lovely.

MinnieMouse0 · 26/09/2023 15:34

The actual dress is nice and not too white! I’d wear a nice colourful cardi/shrug with it ☺️

BIossomtoes · 26/09/2023 15:34

Notagains · 26/09/2023 13:08

Yes it's perfectly fine. To be honest though I don't understand this obsession on Mumsnet about what guests wear to weddings. It seems a very recent thing and I've never met a bride who would care.
But even if you are abiding by the Mumsnet rules that dress is obviously not bridal

We’ve just been invited to a wedding where the dress code quite specifically says “No white, please”. The bride has now added “not even with a pattern”. So some brides care very much indeed!

bridgetreilly · 26/09/2023 15:36

Wear that dress and stop overthinking it.