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Should families get a tax allowance for dependant children

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Clariee45 · 24/09/2023 16:04

Just a thought from another thread about there being no help for the squeezed middle who feel they are hardly better off than those on universal credit. Wouldn’t it just be fairer if those families not entitled to universal credit were given an extra tax allowance equivalent to the adult personal allowance for each child.
Why are adults given a tax allowance that acknowledges the basic costs of needing to eat and have a roof over there head etc and yet parents are expected to provide all this (plus 80% childcare costs) for their children completely out of their taxed income

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Insommmmnia · 24/09/2023 20:49

Thatladdo · 24/09/2023 20:38

Infertile? Youd have had a fertility test so be easily "counted out" of that requirement, Same as someone whos disability made it an imposibility.
Gay folks... Yeah, good point. I have to be honest here im from the sheltered north and dont know many gay people but the ones I do, the majority have children beleive it or not, but obviously not all.
Again, a good reason for examption im sure you agree.

Onto still born babies, goodness, your really getting into this one..
Maybe I should be a impudant as your being distasteful as say it could be prorata!

You are calling me distasteful for pointing out your idea would financially penalised me for having a dead baby. And I'm the distasteful one 🙄But do tell me what percentage reward I would get for carrying a baby for less than 9 months? Or does the baby actually need to be born alive to get the pro rata. So if it lives for an hour you get 0.0006341958%. How... distasteful.

Also can you please clarify which test medical doctors can do to definitively say someone is infertile?

And how many hoops do infertile people have to jump through. Do they still get no state pension if they refuse IVF for example? Have you been through IVF, its horrific and should be forced on no one.

And if disabled people have to prove they are disabled and infertile people have to prove they are infertile, how do gay people prove they are gay.

What about people who never meet a partner? They get no pension because they are maybe not pretty enough, or sociable enough, or perhaps they are carers for their parents or just socially awkward.

How many women would be forced into having children with abusive men because they are approaching menopause and can't risk leaving them because they won't get a pension without a child. Or will be financially penalised without one.

Why are you monetising womens uteruses?

Making social conditions better in a way that makes it easier for people to start a family is one thing.

Financially constraining women to have to have a baby or be financially penalised is quite another

Meanwhile you make no reference to overhauling the CMS system. So all a man has to do is impregnate a woman. Then he can go self employed and pay little to no CMS and in either 18 years or at retirement reap the financial benefits

AnonAnonandAriston · 24/09/2023 20:49

You know what, I’d take being unable to get a state pension as an immigrant over being unable to get a state pension from my home country because I don’t have working reproductive organs.

@fitzwilliamdarcy, I completely agree. I would leave the country as soon as the policy came into being and it would be a big 'fuck you' move on my part. Frankly if the country would treat me like a second class citizen because I don't have kids, the country could do without my 50k tax contribution per annum, why should I contribute towards supporting and educating other peoples children only to be treated with such contempt for being unable to have my own?

Insommmmnia · 24/09/2023 20:51

Clariee45 · 24/09/2023 20:37

It costs more than 2.5k a year to feed, house and clothe a child so how would this ‘reward’ parents?
This is our earned money, so how is it taking other people’s money?
Part of the money would be recouped through people needing to claim less benefits then they already do, for example UC is calculated on take home pay so people would have more take home pay and less UC would need to be paid out. Almost everyone I know on UC would rather just be able to keep more of their take home pay. (Although would need to ensure people coming off UC not worse off when comes to things like COL payments)
Productivity would increase, parents currently on 50-60k face such a high marginal tax rate than many avoid promotions and extra hours to avoid basically losing everything they would gain from that, these are often people in the sort of skilled jobs which the country desperately needs workers for.
It is about fairness too, what good reason is there for children not to be taken account of in the tax system like they are in most other countries?

It would probably be helpful if you could clarify the amount you mean. Because in some posts you say 12.5k and in some posts you say 2.5k which is quite a difference for 2-3 children

Do you not think lower cost or free child care and a better funded school system would be better options? Plus proper efforts by the government to bring down the cost of living, make housing affordable and control rents from keep rising?

LimeCheesecake · 24/09/2023 20:52

But if Our tax system was like many European ones that mean you pay less tax if you have children, then that would factor into your “can we afford it” decision.

jfoyo26 · 24/09/2023 20:53

@gogomoto This is not correct...All families of all income levels benefit from these US tax allowances. To the point where people receive larger tax refunds than they've actually paid in tax. I know situations where people have barely worked and received tax rebates. After functioning and paying tax in both systems, in can comfortably say the US tax system is far more streamlined and much fairer than the tax system in the UK. It also ensures that it always pays to work, even in minimum wage jobs, something we have got desperately wrong in the UK. GDP is much higher in the US because it actually pays to work, it also pays to succeed and do well (no Drs working part time just to avoid draconian tax laws in the US). IMO the first step to improving productivity in the UK is an over-haul of the tax system!

Clariee45 · 24/09/2023 20:54

To add, I think the idea of people without children being penalised in anyway, in the present or the future is an abhorrent idea

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grayhairdontcare · 24/09/2023 20:54

@LimeCheesecake but it doesn't so it didn't.

fitzwilliamdarcy · 24/09/2023 20:55

I’m absolutely not wanting non parents or parents whose children are no longer dependant on them to be worse off than people earning the same salary

I mean, that’s exactly what you’re suggesting. You want a parent of a dependant child on £50k to get to keep more of that £50k than a non-parent on £50k. Leaving the latter worse off than the parent earning the same salary.

At least be honest about it!

fitzwilliamdarcy · 24/09/2023 20:57

AnonAnonandAriston · 24/09/2023 20:49

You know what, I’d take being unable to get a state pension as an immigrant over being unable to get a state pension from my home country because I don’t have working reproductive organs.

@fitzwilliamdarcy, I completely agree. I would leave the country as soon as the policy came into being and it would be a big 'fuck you' move on my part. Frankly if the country would treat me like a second class citizen because I don't have kids, the country could do without my 50k tax contribution per annum, why should I contribute towards supporting and educating other peoples children only to be treated with such contempt for being unable to have my own?

This with bloody bells on. More than happy to pay tax to contribute to the health and education of future generations. That’s the social contract.

Unless you’re suggesting that I have no relevance to the social contract because my reproductive system is broken, in which case I’ll happily go elsewhere and help contribute towards their kids instead!

AnonAnonandAriston · 24/09/2023 21:00

Personally I think one thing that should be done is to follow the lead of some US states when it comes to child support. Don't pay it? We'll take your passport/driving licence, don't clear the debt within 2 years? Off to prison you go.

Penalise the fuckwit men that just impregnate people and then skip off without a backwards glance. Stop them going on holiday with their new family until they have paid their debts. Make it less attractive to just produce kids without any thought on how they will be paid for....

Insommmmnia · 24/09/2023 21:04

AnonAnonandAriston · 24/09/2023 21:00

Personally I think one thing that should be done is to follow the lead of some US states when it comes to child support. Don't pay it? We'll take your passport/driving licence, don't clear the debt within 2 years? Off to prison you go.

Penalise the fuckwit men that just impregnate people and then skip off without a backwards glance. Stop them going on holiday with their new family until they have paid their debts. Make it less attractive to just produce kids without any thought on how they will be paid for....

I would absolutely support a US style CMS system

The fact that some posters on here are advocating monetising womens wombs rather than tackling the rather large issues that a higher number of women are no longer wanting to have children with unreliable men who will then not pay properly for those children shows the inherent mysoginy that still surrounds conversations around birth rates etc.

Start forcing men to be financially reliable and responsible for their offspring and perhaps birth rates would increase because women wouldn't be having to wonder if they could afford to raise a child alone before getting pregnant.

Cupofteafortwo · 24/09/2023 21:09

I’m a single parent. Ds23 lives at home,
ds18 has just started university. I have a salary of 36k. I have zero at the end of each month. HOWEVER my housing is paid, my bills are paid, my car is paid for, food stocks my fridge, freezer and cupboards and I can afford holidays.

Compare that to someone who struggles to pay all those things and I’m well off. Compare it to a previous poster this morning who was whinging on 95k and that’s a different matter!

ChesterDrawz · 24/09/2023 21:10

unsync · 24/09/2023 16:26

Why do people want to pay less and less tax but then complain about a lack of services / benefits / health care / education / welfare etc. Do people really not understand the correlation?

Oh they understand it perfectly.

They just want someone else to pay for it all, not them. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Thatladdo · 24/09/2023 21:12

@Insommmmnia 😆😣Its after 9PM on Sunday Night, I just cant.

But CMS / Maintainance O hell yes! That should be enforced and chased with the as much force as the HMRC chase people for Taxes.
In the cases of deliberate evasion it should be backdated with interest.

Self employment brings other interesting arguments about payments and taxes and the "cash in hand" economy. But no one trusts a digital economy so its dificult to move forward from that one

Insommmmnia · 24/09/2023 21:15

Thatladdo · 24/09/2023 21:12

@Insommmmnia 😆😣Its after 9PM on Sunday Night, I just cant.

But CMS / Maintainance O hell yes! That should be enforced and chased with the as much force as the HMRC chase people for Taxes.
In the cases of deliberate evasion it should be backdated with interest.

Self employment brings other interesting arguments about payments and taxes and the "cash in hand" economy. But no one trusts a digital economy so its dificult to move forward from that one

You are putting laughing emojis in reply to your posts to me calling me distasteful for mentioning my stillborn baby just to be clear.

Perhaps if you can't justify your ill thought out discriminatory and distasteful suggestions at 9pm you shouldn't post them?

I think it's more likely that you actually can't justify them.

Clariee45 · 24/09/2023 21:17

Insommmmnia · 24/09/2023 20:51

It would probably be helpful if you could clarify the amount you mean. Because in some posts you say 12.5k and in some posts you say 2.5k which is quite a difference for 2-3 children

Do you not think lower cost or free child care and a better funded school system would be better options? Plus proper efforts by the government to bring down the cost of living, make housing affordable and control rents from keep rising?

I mean a family is given a 12.5k tax allowance i.e. for each child 12.5k of earnings is disregarded from the calculation for tax so e.g. at the moment an individual has a 12.5 k tax allowance so if they earn 25k they only pay 2.5k in tax. If a single parent with 2 children earned 50k they would only pay 2.5k in tax rather than 7.5k
NI would still usually be payable on any earnings over the threshold of 12.5k a year, just like it is for regardless of other things currently disregarded for tax purposes such as pensions etc.

Yes agree with better funding for schools and housing.

Further funding for childcare doesn’t really sit comfortably with me, despite my entire salary and more going out in childcare at one point, so I am not anti working mother at all, I am very much for choice. Yes absolutely makes sense to continue with 85% of childcare costs to UC recipients as would be paying equivalent in extra UC if not working. I myself was a single parents before UC/tax credit childcare support and was ludicrous that was effectively forced to not work. However more funded childcare doesn’t sit well with me for lots of reasons. In many cases you will be funding people to work who would have preferred to be at home with their babies, doing jobs that the local teenagers would have had the opportunity to do otherwise and taking up nursery places resulting in mothers who really want or need to work not being able to get childcare. All seems a bit pointless, I would much rather just let their family keep more money so they can make a free choice. The other issue I have with more funded childcare is that when I was a SAHM then significant amounts of tax were being taken off us to fund the childcare of people much better off than us, so effectively felt like being punished for caring for your own children

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SueVineer · 24/09/2023 21:17

Hbh17 · 24/09/2023 16:17

Because that would mean that the rest of the population are subsidising the lifestyle choices of people wit young children. These parents already get Child Benefit, so it would be particularly egregious for them to have an additional subsidy. It is up to parents to fund their own children, not the job of taxpayers.

Isn’t that what’s happening with benefits though?

Clariee45 · 24/09/2023 21:21

SueVineer · 24/09/2023 21:17

Isn’t that what’s happening with benefits though?

increasing numbers of parents are not eligible for child benefit, just make child benefit taxable, problem solved :)

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grayhairdontcare · 24/09/2023 21:22

@Clariee45 so basically you are pissed that you didn't get free money for being a SAHP?
I refer you back to the only have what you can afford comment.

fitzwilliamdarcy · 24/09/2023 21:23

The other issue I have with more funded childcare is that when I was a SAHM then significant amounts of tax were being taken off us to fund the childcare of people much better off than us, so effectively felt like being punished for caring for your own children

Yes, it’s aggravating when someone suggests that you should pay more tax to fund other people’s choices around children, isn’t it.

But as you’ve said, a person getting to keep more of their own tax just for making one type of reproductive choice doesn’t mean another person who makes a different choice is losing out or being penalised!

SueVineer · 24/09/2023 21:24

Clariee45 · 24/09/2023 21:17

I mean a family is given a 12.5k tax allowance i.e. for each child 12.5k of earnings is disregarded from the calculation for tax so e.g. at the moment an individual has a 12.5 k tax allowance so if they earn 25k they only pay 2.5k in tax. If a single parent with 2 children earned 50k they would only pay 2.5k in tax rather than 7.5k
NI would still usually be payable on any earnings over the threshold of 12.5k a year, just like it is for regardless of other things currently disregarded for tax purposes such as pensions etc.

Yes agree with better funding for schools and housing.

Further funding for childcare doesn’t really sit comfortably with me, despite my entire salary and more going out in childcare at one point, so I am not anti working mother at all, I am very much for choice. Yes absolutely makes sense to continue with 85% of childcare costs to UC recipients as would be paying equivalent in extra UC if not working. I myself was a single parents before UC/tax credit childcare support and was ludicrous that was effectively forced to not work. However more funded childcare doesn’t sit well with me for lots of reasons. In many cases you will be funding people to work who would have preferred to be at home with their babies, doing jobs that the local teenagers would have had the opportunity to do otherwise and taking up nursery places resulting in mothers who really want or need to work not being able to get childcare. All seems a bit pointless, I would much rather just let their family keep more money so they can make a free choice. The other issue I have with more funded childcare is that when I was a SAHM then significant amounts of tax were being taken off us to fund the childcare of people much better off than us, so effectively felt like being punished for caring for your own children

Funding childcare doesn’t force anyone to work. It just gives them the choice.

why do you think your dhs tax was funding childcare for people who earned more than him? That really doesn’t make sense.

Insommmmnia · 24/09/2023 21:25

Clariee45 · 24/09/2023 21:17

I mean a family is given a 12.5k tax allowance i.e. for each child 12.5k of earnings is disregarded from the calculation for tax so e.g. at the moment an individual has a 12.5 k tax allowance so if they earn 25k they only pay 2.5k in tax. If a single parent with 2 children earned 50k they would only pay 2.5k in tax rather than 7.5k
NI would still usually be payable on any earnings over the threshold of 12.5k a year, just like it is for regardless of other things currently disregarded for tax purposes such as pensions etc.

Yes agree with better funding for schools and housing.

Further funding for childcare doesn’t really sit comfortably with me, despite my entire salary and more going out in childcare at one point, so I am not anti working mother at all, I am very much for choice. Yes absolutely makes sense to continue with 85% of childcare costs to UC recipients as would be paying equivalent in extra UC if not working. I myself was a single parents before UC/tax credit childcare support and was ludicrous that was effectively forced to not work. However more funded childcare doesn’t sit well with me for lots of reasons. In many cases you will be funding people to work who would have preferred to be at home with their babies, doing jobs that the local teenagers would have had the opportunity to do otherwise and taking up nursery places resulting in mothers who really want or need to work not being able to get childcare. All seems a bit pointless, I would much rather just let their family keep more money so they can make a free choice. The other issue I have with more funded childcare is that when I was a SAHM then significant amounts of tax were being taken off us to fund the childcare of people much better off than us, so effectively felt like being punished for caring for your own children

doing jobs that the local teenagers would have had the opportunity to do otherwise

Lots of teenagers could train as nursery workers if there was a better funded childcare system. Teenagers are far more likely to get entry level roles as nursery workers than replace a woman in her 30s who has had a child.

significant amounts of tax were being taken off us to fund the childcare of people much better off than us, so effectively felt like being punished for caring for your own children

So to be very clear, you don't like your taxes funding childcare because you didn't use it yourself so you felt like you were being punished for caring for your own children, but you expect childfree people to pay higher taxes (they would have to to fund your plan) despite not having children than require children's services and not to feel punished for this?

I firmly believe that everyone, whether they have children or not, needs to pay in taxes to support the next generation of children. I'm just slightly baffled by the notion that the only people that should not pay in taxes to support children are in fact the parents of those children, in case the money goes to subsidised childcare and that punishes them when they haven't used it 🙄

Tremour · 24/09/2023 21:25

Thatladdo · 24/09/2023 20:06

Perhaps to put another angle on this, the children we have grow up ( finger crossed) to be tax payers, who pay for our state pensions.
Im not suggesting that people that decide they dont want to have children dont receive a state pension ( interesting idea ) but a graduated allowance on your successfully raised tax paying offspring could be your reward.

Or a stepped state pension allowance based on your actual out of pocket tax contributions. 😊

In that world if thats the case than single childless or childfree people should then be able to opt out of paying taxes towards funding school and anything child related like child benefit. Cos i'd use that tax to fund my own pension thanks very much. Because what reward do I get for paying taxes to fund children related things? A reduced pension thats what - at that point most people would say fuck off!

Thatladdo · 24/09/2023 21:27

Insommmmnia · 24/09/2023 21:15

You are putting laughing emojis in reply to your posts to me calling me distasteful for mentioning my stillborn baby just to be clear.

Perhaps if you can't justify your ill thought out discriminatory and distasteful suggestions at 9pm you shouldn't post them?

I think it's more likely that you actually can't justify them.

I really dont have to justfify or explain anything, to anyone.

You arent asking for justification your asking for specific details which i would have to base on blind guesses on financial values ( Guesses ) which you would then further ask specific questions on. Spoiling for a fight.
Thats largely pointless.

Regardless,
Im sorry for your loss.

Tremour · 24/09/2023 21:27

Clariee45 · 24/09/2023 18:53

Only asking for the equivalent adult tax allowance to be disregarded, which equates to parents keeping 2.5k extra of their earnings (between them) i.e. 20% or current individual tax allowance of £12500

Single person no kids only gets 25% off their council tax, dont you think they should get 50%? After all in a 2 adult home earning money its 50% per person.

Would you back this? Go out an show solidarity for those people so they get 50%? After all its only fair right, or is it that only people with kids should only be treated fairly