i was just walking home after dropping dd at playgroup when i noticed this same white van basically driving past me then going round the corner and driving past me again. it stopped ahead of me, just outside our block of flats and the driver got out. I recognised him as the local drug dealer who uses the car-park of our block and the road in front to deal drugs/snort coke and generally harass the residents, in particular my dp and myself.
He basically just stood there staring at me and i thought 'do i go past him or do i just turn back and go the other way and hope that he disappears?'. I decided to brave it as i only have an hour and a half to myself before picking up dd again and don't really have time to waste wandering the streets to avoid creepy guys like him. So he kept staring and i kept walking and then without thinking i just blurted out 'Can you please stop staring at me. I find it intimidating.' Stupid thing to say, i know. He started walking towards me with his fists clenched saying 'What? What? You can't decide who i look at. Why don't you get your husband to come sort it out?' (I think his fixation might be more to do with dp than me, as he has been asking the other residents which flat we live in and regularly walks around looking up at all the windows to see where we are).
So then i stupidly blurted out 'look we've had enough of this, and your drug dealing' To which he replied 'you grass! Why don't you call the police then! go on, call them'. still walking towards me. by this stage i had opened the communal front door and just managed to blurt out 'F*ing stalker!' I don't know why, it was a really stupid and inflammatory thing to say but by this stage fear and anger had taken over and it was as if someone else was talking.
So i got in and there he was, pacing up and down looking up at all the windows trying to see me. At one point i think he saw me so I just panicked and called the police who turned up pretty promptly and asked me a few questions about him, then they said they'd go and speak to him and 'see if our stories matched. They didn't take a formal statement from me so i dont' think they took it very seriously and he drove off in his own van a few minutes later, once again scrutinising the building to try and work out where i was.
So tell me i was being unreasonable. after all, i basically started this confrontation, didn't i? he does have the right to stare at anyone he likes, after all.