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TrailingLoellia · 23/09/2023 09:48

GrumpyPanda · 23/09/2023 09:45

Well no. Leaving the cleanup to you was extremely unreasonable. Are you going to bring it up with him? Why did you let him get away with that in the first place? Does he often display Disney dad tendencies?

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He’d just finished a night shift, so he had to go to bed, that’s not unreasonable as the ‘clean up’ is literally washing hands or wiping sticky fingers.

FallGall · 23/09/2023 09:50

Usual mumsnet shite! Considering only 18% of families apparently now eat at the table and only 48% of people actually have a dining room table.

It's amazing how many of you would sit your kid at the table to eat a bun and crips.

Why do some people just love to make other people feel bad? It makes me sad that some mums may measure their parenting skills by the some of the absolute rubbish they read on here!

Shodan · 23/09/2023 09:52

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 23/09/2023 09:47

For future - if the table isn’t clear chuck an old towel on the floor and let them picnic. That keeps the mess in one place and can be chucked in the washing machine.

Unexpected things like this will happen so you need strategies to fall back on.

I was going to say exactly the same thing. Although I'd make it an old sheet (bigger!)

Then you get clean soft furnishings AND the joy of making a fun thing even more fun.

andHelenknowsimmiserablenow · 23/09/2023 09:55

The treat was lovely for DC, but there's no way I would have let them eat them until the laundry was moved, the table was clear, and the wipes were ready!

Youspoilus · 23/09/2023 09:56

FallGall · 23/09/2023 09:50

Usual mumsnet shite! Considering only 18% of families apparently now eat at the table and only 48% of people actually have a dining room table.

It's amazing how many of you would sit your kid at the table to eat a bun and crips.

Why do some people just love to make other people feel bad? It makes me sad that some mums may measure their parenting skills by the some of the absolute rubbish they read on here!

Well presumably the op was making her dh feel bad!

BethDuttonsTwin · 23/09/2023 10:00

You sound really uptight.

McIntire · 23/09/2023 10:06

It would bother me and I absolutely wouldn’t let them wander around with crisps and sticky buns.

You sit down to eat and wet wipe or wash your hands after.

WeWereInParis · 23/09/2023 10:07

The treats wouldn't annoy me, getting sticky fingers everywhere would.

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Seven99 · 23/09/2023 10:09

Johnnylewis · 23/09/2023 09:40

I get it OP. You're ND and it's the unexpected nature of it - people won't understand how stressful that can be, especially combined with the smells and stickiness. I get it.

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Thank you 🥺

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DoubleHelix79 · 23/09/2023 10:09

As long as he bought me a cinnamon bun I'd think it was a great idea.

Bbq1 · 23/09/2023 10:12

Op, don't be such a joyless fun sponge... but why didn't your children eat their treats at the table?

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Seven99 · 23/09/2023 10:12

Youspoilus · 23/09/2023 09:56

Well presumably the op was making her dh feel bad!

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You shouldn't presume. I wrote in an earlier post that I didn't say anything to him.

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Youspoilus · 23/09/2023 10:16

Seven99 · 23/09/2023 10:12

You shouldn't presume. I wrote in an earlier post that I didn't say anything to him.

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You just seethed silently in the corner

I am sure that was noted!

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Seven99 · 23/09/2023 10:20

Youspoilus · 23/09/2023 10:16

You just seethed silently in the corner

I am sure that was noted!

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You like making things up don't you?

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Bbq1 · 23/09/2023 10:22

GrumpyPanda · 23/09/2023 09:45

Well no. Leaving the cleanup to you was extremely unreasonable. Are you going to bring it up with him? Why did you let him get away with that in the first place? Does he often display Disney dad tendencies?

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The clean up?! The man had just worked all night and thoughtful bought his kids some crisps and a doughnut! If Op couldn't manage tge "clean up" after that well... Words fail me. Op makes it sound as if the kids were rolling around eating the food and crushing it into the "soft furnishings". If they were, well that's Op's choice.

Youspoilus · 23/09/2023 10:26

Seven99 · 23/09/2023 10:20

You like making things up don't you?

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to quote… YOU

”I silently seethed” 😂

KarmenPQZ · 23/09/2023 10:35

I’m not going to lie…. I thought for sure the AIBU for being cross was going to be because he bought the kids treats but you nothing. He was very unreasonable for this

Timmytap18 · 23/09/2023 10:37

I think sometimes we get caught up in little things. Calm down, clean up and open the windows.

The kids will just remember a lovely morning when Daddy came home and they had yummy treats.

No drama

phoenixrosehere · 23/09/2023 10:46

YANBU since he gave them those treats and then buggered off leaving you to clean the mess left behind. Saying that, the 6 yo should be able to put their rubbish in the bin and able to wipe up their mess and the 4 yo at least starting to learn. If your children are in the helper phase, you could have them start and it becoming ingrained that they do themselves without there being much clean-up or ask them to do it every time before they move on to a different task.

phoenixrosehere · 23/09/2023 10:49

Bbq1 · 23/09/2023 10:22

The clean up?! The man had just worked all night and thoughtful bought his kids some crisps and a doughnut! If Op couldn't manage tge "clean up" after that well... Words fail me. Op makes it sound as if the kids were rolling around eating the food and crushing it into the "soft furnishings". If they were, well that's Op's choice.

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And? OP has had three children with her while he has been at work. Just because he worked all night doesn’t mean he can just leave a mess behind so his wife can clean it up.

CherryMaDeara · 23/09/2023 10:51

Seven99 · 23/09/2023 09:31

I think that's partly what annoyed me. He just went to get ready for bed and left me to deal with the clean up.

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This is what I came in to ask.

Why wasn’t he supervising them so no sticky hands on new furnishings?

Mamette · 23/09/2023 10:52

Your DC had crisps and a doughnut and you’ve started a thread on MN?

Just manage where they sit while they are eating and have them wash their hands afterwards.

bonzaitree · 23/09/2023 10:53

Sounds normal- tell your OH he needs to clean up the mess.

LuckySantangelo35 · 23/09/2023 10:56

I don’t think YABU actually OP

who wants stinky, sticky furnishings?!

For most of us these are expensive items and they have to last so they need to be looked after

your partner should have took precautions to avoid mess

Nanny0gg · 23/09/2023 11:03

Seven99 · 23/09/2023 09:20

DH got in from work this morning and brought with him some treats for the kids (age 2, 4 and 6)

A small tin of sour cream and chive pringles each and some sticky doughnuts, cinnamon etc.

They don't eat alot of sweets or crap in general so it's not a regular thing but within 5 minutes the room absolutely stank and still does. Sticky cinnamon hands mixed with sour cream and chive, said hands touching all of the soft furnishings (throws and the sofa). It's absolutely rank and I can still smell it now.

AIBU to be annoyed with him? Would you mind thus?

Couldn't they have eaten in the kitchen/dining room? Then wash their hands?

I've never had sticky hands over the furniture because food doesn't belong in the living room unless supervised