What are your thoughts on the above?
I have discouraged the above recently because grandparents are now 89 and 85, gf with multiple health problems including a recent heart attack. Despite this they are still pretty active and eat out regularly and go on holiday (coach).
They have kindly agreed to look after dc9 overnight this weekend as we are busy all day, and have offered to drop him home the following evening. This is a 30 minute drive, including dual carriageways but no motorways.
DH accepted their offer of a lift home, despite me being reticent about them driving ds in the past couple of years due to declining health and grandparent reporting declining night vision.
I said that before accepting their offer of driving dc home he should have run it by me first or said that we would collect. This has caused a huge row. Dh is ranting round the house saying it would be a different story if it was my parent (it wouldn’t if mine was same age and same level of health) and is announcing to the dc how unreasonable I am and how don’t trust his parents and that I want him to phone them back and say that we don’t trust them to drive with dc.
He says I am overprotective and ridiculous and that I hate his parents (not true) and is getting the dc onside and getting them all to agree how awful I am and how ungrateful I am. Ironically he has just stormed off in the car with our other dc after nearly crashing into my car in his bad mood like a total man child.
AIBU to be anxious about them driving him home? Should I have just gratefully accepted? Is my anxiety over cautious? Interested to hear people’s views. Honestly I have lost track of rationality after all this……