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To obsessively stalk someone I don't like.

16 replies

alittlebitbatcrazy · 20/09/2023 15:57

Well of course I'm being unreasonable but how do I stop obsessing over someone who bullied me, I keep finding myself looking at their very public fb and being intimidated by all the things they write about me and yet I'm back again later to read more.
I've left school and I never have to see them again but I'm punishing myself every day, I just can't not look.

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35965a · 20/09/2023 15:58

As you know, all you’re doing is hurting yourself. Have you thought about therapy to help you process the bullying? It could be worth a try to help you move on.

FFSWhatDidIJustSee · 20/09/2023 16:00

What sort of things are they writing about you?

MariePaperRoses · 20/09/2023 16:02

Why are they continuing to write about you?

NotTerfNorCis · 20/09/2023 16:06

Report them to FB for personal harassment.

Turquoisa80 · 20/09/2023 16:09

You should block the site on your settings or you could allocate a short time window in your day where you can look. If you miss that window, then you can't look until the next day. Hopefully as time goes on, you will be busy and will not be interested in looking.

Conkersinautumn · 20/09/2023 16:13

As above. Report, block. Eventually laugh that they're so fixated on you, live your life for you, not someone else

alittlebitbatcrazy · 20/09/2023 16:22

FFSWhatDidIJustSee · 20/09/2023 16:00

What sort of things are they writing about you?

Jokes about me really and just generally taking the piss editing photos to make me look like an idiot for laughs.
It's just a group from school and we've all left now but I end up reading the comments.
I don't even go to their college so why they still find me that entertaining I couldn't even guess.

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Nopenopenopenopenopenope · 20/09/2023 16:26

Block them. Stop torturing yourself. They are horrible and poisoning yourself feeling bad because they're a cunt does you no good at all.

0021andabit · 20/09/2023 16:30

It’s horrible & pathetic that they’re doing that. I think it’s very human of you to want to look, but I think you know that you need to block & move on.

alittlebitbatcrazy · 20/09/2023 16:32

I know, I do block them but then I unblock them, I know it's crazy.

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Mabelface · 20/09/2023 16:39

Fuck'em. They're just making themselves look like nasty pieces of shit very publicly. Says far more about them than you.

Switch on that block. It doesn't matter what they say about you. You're away from the school shit now. They're just people you used to know. Keep telling yourself that.

Alargeoneplease89 · 20/09/2023 16:42

Just delete social media for a bit and concentrate on yourself.

YoureALizardHarry11 · 20/09/2023 16:47

alittlebitbatcrazy · 20/09/2023 16:22

Jokes about me really and just generally taking the piss editing photos to make me look like an idiot for laughs.
It's just a group from school and we've all left now but I end up reading the comments.
I don't even go to their college so why they still find me that entertaining I couldn't even guess.

They sound like a pathetic, sad individual to waste their life taking the piss out of others. Clearly they don’t have much of a life. Block the account so you don’t have to see it. They’re probably doing it knowing you’re looking.

Gnomegnomegnome · 20/09/2023 16:54

A group from school? Is it on social media?

Can you report to the group admin?

Also, are you both at (different) college now? If so report to her college.

I’m sorry that you are going through this.

alittlebitbatcrazy · 20/09/2023 17:10

Gnomegnomegnome · 20/09/2023 16:54

A group from school? Is it on social media?

Can you report to the group admin?

Also, are you both at (different) college now? If so report to her college.

I’m sorry that you are going through this.

Sorry no not a group chat, I meant a group of girls from my old school.
They have other social media which is private but the fb is public.
I have no idea what's on other accounts but what I can see is bad enough.
I just can't believe how many people think it's so funny.

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MariePaperRoses · 20/09/2023 17:14

They took photo of you at school and are now uploading them to Facebook and others are joining in with unsavoury comments about your appearance or your behaviour or both?

Seems very odd to carry it in now that you've all left school.

How long ago sis you all leave school?

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