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Coughing lady at the movies

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HibiscusAndPineapples · 15/09/2023 14:52

Went to the cinema to watch a film, and the lady seated behind me spent the better part of the entire runtime coughing. It wasn’t just muffled coughs here and there either, but full on, loud, non-stop coughing.

Any quiet/tense moment in the film was completely ruined by loud coughing.

AIBU to think that anyone with a cough as loud and relentless as this should just stay away from the cinema?

OP posts:
jannier · 18/09/2023 10:31

Wanderingllama · 18/09/2023 10:02

Him insisting to be in activity which was not suitable would affect enjoyment of others and it would be a hight of entitlement. And the group would absolute chuck him out before the second hike.
Him finding suitable group would be the logical solution, yes.

Same way like someone who cannot help making loud noise or moving around has an option of autism friendly screenings in a cinema which allow noise, moving around etc...

If a group throws him out he can take legal action he chooses not to. If a cinema bans someone from a performance they can take legal action. ....autism friendly are higher light levels and lower noise they are not designed for all audiences and it does not mean people with ASD cannot attend a normal screening it is just a specially adapted screening for those who feel that is what they need as a disabled person to see a firm....not a dump all the annoying disabled into a holding pen for the convenience of the able bodied ....if people are thinking that is shows how far disability rights still have to go and the ignorance of the fit and well....such a shame your dad isn't confident enough to fight for a full life maybe if he had been born disabled he would be keener to fight. I hope he does have the best quality of life he can get but I'm not willing to shove any of my family into a keep out of sight box this is the one life we all have no matter how we are born

Wanderingllama · 18/09/2023 10:46

....such a shame your dad isn't confident enough to fight for a full life maybe if he had been born disabled he would be keener to fight.
Confused no he still wouldn't be fucking threatening legal action because a standard hiking group refused to go 1mile an hour speed and told him he can't go with them! So ridiculous what you written. Fucking patronising bs.

I hope he does have the best quality of life he can get but I'm not willing to shove any of my family into a keep out of sight box this is the one life we all have no matter how we are born
He is dead. Thought that would have been obvious from the past tense used. Yes he lived best quality if life without forcing others to lower theirs. He hiked himself or with family and friends, went fishing, travelled spent lots of time out and about etc.

Having to amend your life around your abilities and use more suited groups/screenings/activities is not shoving people into out of sight boxes. There is difference between "confidence to fight" for good quality of life and entitlement of "I come before everyone and if you are not happy you are discriminating". You are in the latter group.

jannier · 18/09/2023 10:58

Wanderingllama · 18/09/2023 10:46

....such a shame your dad isn't confident enough to fight for a full life maybe if he had been born disabled he would be keener to fight.
Confused no he still wouldn't be fucking threatening legal action because a standard hiking group refused to go 1mile an hour speed and told him he can't go with them! So ridiculous what you written. Fucking patronising bs.

I hope he does have the best quality of life he can get but I'm not willing to shove any of my family into a keep out of sight box this is the one life we all have no matter how we are born
He is dead. Thought that would have been obvious from the past tense used. Yes he lived best quality if life without forcing others to lower theirs. He hiked himself or with family and friends, went fishing, travelled spent lots of time out and about etc.

Having to amend your life around your abilities and use more suited groups/screenings/activities is not shoving people into out of sight boxes. There is difference between "confidence to fight" for good quality of life and entitlement of "I come before everyone and if you are not happy you are discriminating". You are in the latter group.

Edited

I was born into a disabled family things have got better over 60 years thanks to disabled people fighting not rolling over I'm still caring for a brain injured brother, 2 with lung issues (plus me) one of which also has my mother's physical disabilities and cancer alongside her son who has ASD every time I take any one of them out we are obstructed from things you would take for granted last week it was a disabled toilet a shop refused access to the other user left to go home I fought for both of them the toilet is now accessible again did the poor lady who went home achieve that?
I'm not saying he should have forced others to wait for him but he should be allowed into the group and to walk with his carers at his own pace to join up at the end for a social gathering etc. Not just told to go away....generally when you join a group some will carry on and do their thing others will chat and take breaks with you up to them when you start your the only one ten after a while other members bring their disabled friends or family and you have company. You may not follow the same route that doesn't matter you do what you can. I've taken my sister sailing she loved it.

housethatbuiltme · 18/09/2023 12:17

MartinChuzzlewit · 18/09/2023 09:24

This thread is bonkers. The likelihood is the woman just had a cough yet people are diagnosing her with a disability

12 MILLION people in the uk (thats 1 in 5 people) have a diagnosis of some form of lung disease... its really not far fetched to think in an entire cinema screen the one persons clearly struggling to breath properly is likely one of the several in there with the disability.

jannier · 18/09/2023 12:59

MartinChuzzlewit · 18/09/2023 09:39

@jannier this doesn’t follow that 1 in 5 people have consistent and uncontrollable coughs

Which condition does not cause coughing?

MartinChuzzlewit · 18/09/2023 13:16

jannier · 18/09/2023 12:59

Which condition does not cause coughing?

Please don’t twist my words. I didn’t claim that - I won’t be responding to questions about things I didn’t say.

jannier · 18/09/2023 13:48

MartinChuzzlewit · 18/09/2023 13:16

Please don’t twist my words. I didn’t claim that - I won’t be responding to questions about things I didn’t say.

So if you can't think of any it goes back to with 1 in 5 having chronic lung disease the chance it high that at any showings someone will have a disease and at some point in your theater going life a few showings will be disrupted by coughing that is not a cold and is severe enough an episode to not allow that person to get up and leave because they are bent forward struggling to breathe once meds start to help the patient is exhausted and still can't go walking until recovered running down a flight of stairs in the dark is not possible

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