I (26F) would confide in family and friends whenever BF (31M) and I argue but I admittedly probably said more than I should have. We have been together just shy of a year but none of my family or friends like my BF based on the stories I have told them. They have ALL encouraged me to breakup with him.
For context some of the things BF has done wrong:
- Didn’t pay anything towards my birthday weekend away or meal.
- Lied about sexual history when we initially started dating but weren’t exclusive. There was an overlap between I and another woman.
- Told me last minute he forgot to book the date of a concert off and was unable to get the leave from work so we couldn’t go. The concert was in a different city so I wasn’t prepared to go alone and none of my friends were available.
- He has only met two of my friends properly so far and both times he ended up so drunk we had to bring him to bed.
BF & I did briefly split and everyone was estatic but we recently reconnected. So far I have been keeping it a secret from family and friends because I know that they will be disappointed and will react badly and I fear some friends may even cut me off as they’re that opinionated.
We (BF & I) had a long and hard chat about the good and the ugly which he took accountability and apologized for. He said he was going to try change in order to become a better boyfriend and person but it’s still early days so I can’t make any comment on whether he has or not.
I absolutely love BF. He is funny, caring, and I always feel like I can be myself around him. We have similar passions and goals and the same perspectives on marriage and children. In the nicest way, BF is an “acquired” taste, he’s more introverted than I and can be socially awkward around people initially (drinks to calm the nerves), but once he becomes comfortable he is a different person completely for the better and can nearly come off too friendly (sometimes mistaken for being nosey).
I don’t want to hide my relationship but I hate disapproval. I want my family and friends to like BF but know it’s my own fault they don’t because of how often I overstated about the bad. AIBU to let their opinions bother me? BF still hasn’t met any of my family bar younher sister yet.