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Original poster

OLD.. would you immediately block someone who spoke about dick pics...

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SpaghettiAndMeatball20 · 09/09/2023 13:30

Even if the context was "I don't understand why men send dick picks its hardly the most attractive area"

Then proceeds to ask:

"How many have you have... pics, not dicks 😅"

I abruptly ended the conversation and they've messaged this morning. I feel uncomfortable and want to block...

Just checking I'm not being overly sensitive because to me it felt disrespectful.

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lionsleepstonight · 09/09/2023 13:32

Yes, as it sounds like another one is on it's way.

Unless you wait for it and then reply 'smaller than the others, no thanks'.

Aquamarine1029 · 09/09/2023 13:33

An immediate block from me. What a fucking weirdo.

Aquamarine1029 · 09/09/2023 13:35

I feel uncomfortable and want to block...

Then what are you waiting for?! You don't need permission or to justify how you feel. Block the fucker.

CremeEggThief · 09/09/2023 13:36

You can block anyone for any reason at all in OLD, OP.
Just do it and get in with your day. YABU to give this any head-space tbh.

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SpaghettiAndMeatball20 · 09/09/2023 13:36

Just been a long time since I've dated I wasn't sure if I was being too sensitive! But I agree it is weird to talk about that!!

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Bobbotgegrinch · 09/09/2023 13:37

Aquamarine1029 · 09/09/2023 13:35

I feel uncomfortable and want to block...

Then what are you waiting for?! You don't need permission or to justify how you feel. Block the fucker.

This.

Why does it matter what any of us think? It doesn't matter if any of us would feel uncomfortable, you do. So block him.

IconoDeLaModaLenta · 09/09/2023 13:38

I don't know, if you raised the subject of how welcome they were, and he responded with that, I wouldn't block. (I'd have zero tolerance for a dick pic).

But it's not the most intelligent response, he sounds a bit basic but maybe not a squaring up for the right moment to send you one.

Who raised the issue of Dick Picks

LizardLizard · 09/09/2023 13:38

He seems unusually preoccupied with dicks and pics of dicks. Block.

IncompleteSenten · 09/09/2023 13:38

Yeah. That's called 'testing the water'.
Instant block.

CremeEggThief · 09/09/2023 13:38

Why would you care if someone like this man thinks you're sensitive? I honestly don't get where you're coming from at all.

IconoDeLaModaLenta · 09/09/2023 13:39

Ps, yes, if you're not in to it, block or stop responding, you don't need to justify that decision

Createausername1970 · 09/09/2023 13:39

Taking the conversation at face value I would reply truthfully. Whether that's "none, and I don't want any" or "at least a 100, and I display them all in silver frames", or whatever your situation is.

It may simply have been a poor attempt at humour. I wouldn't be blocking him at this stage, it's better to have a couple of frank conversations early on to judge if you are on the same page. If he definitely come across after a few conversations as not being you cup if tea then say so.

StarBloo · 09/09/2023 16:32

I dont see anything wrong with it, you mentioned the dick pics he asked how many you have received. I'm missing the point that other people are seeing obviously.

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SpaghettiAndMeatball20 · 09/09/2023 16:42

For information it was HIM that said about not understanding why men send dick pics. I made no mention of it at all.

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Createausername1970 · 09/09/2023 16:46

Maybe he was letting you know he does not do them. Perhaps the last couple of women wanted a dick pick?

SisterMichaelsHabit · 09/09/2023 16:46

Block. Creep. Probably trying to get off on hearing how many unsolicited dick pics you've received.

menopausalmare · 09/09/2023 16:47

Would you want to date a man who asked if he could expose himself to you in the street?

titchy · 09/09/2023 16:47

Createausername1970 · 09/09/2023 16:46

Maybe he was letting you know he does not do them. Perhaps the last couple of women wanted a dick pick?

Does any woman really want a dick pic?

SisterMichaelsHabit · 09/09/2023 16:48

Createausername1970 · 09/09/2023 16:46

Maybe he was letting you know he does not do them. Perhaps the last couple of women wanted a dick pick?

Sorry does anyone ever want a dick pic? Genuinely? Never heard of a single woman who wanted one. I am aghast if there are women out there who actually want them.

Original poster
SpaghettiAndMeatball20 · 09/09/2023 16:49

Zero interest in dick pics just FYI.

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SisterMichaelsHabit · 09/09/2023 16:50

menopausalmare · 09/09/2023 16:47

Would you want to date a man who asked if he could expose himself to you in the street?

To take this excellent analogy further, I also wouldn't want to date a man who pointedly said "I won't expose myself to you in the street, I'm not like that".

Saltyswee · 09/09/2023 17:00

I think you are being too sensitive! But maybe that kind of humour isn’t for you if you have to ruminate over it.

Createausername1970 · 09/09/2023 17:45

SisterMichaelsHabit · 09/09/2023 16:48

Sorry does anyone ever want a dick pic? Genuinely? Never heard of a single woman who wanted one. I am aghast if there are women out there who actually want them.

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Doesn't float my boat, but I do know some women who are not adverse.

KarlWrenbury · 09/09/2023 17:46

I’ve enjoyed a picture or video of a dick in the past

BeautifulGnome · 09/09/2023 19:34

I don't see the problem with what he said. He's started a conversation about an issue that's understood to be common to women dating online. He holds the socially acceptable majority belief. He asked an empathetic question.
Replace dick pics with any other feminist issue, would you have a problem?

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