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To wear champagne to a wedding?

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Goldiebear1 · 07/09/2023 13:12

Please can you help me -

I’ve found a champagne coloured dress and a wanting to wear it to a wedding with a black shrug, black handbag and black heels. Is it acceptable to wear the colour champagne? I don’t want to turn up and upset the bride - the dress is champagne and all accessories are black.

thank you ☺️

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Original poster
Goldiebear1 · 07/09/2023 13:14

It’s this dress with a black shrug Cardy on top

To wear champagne to a wedding?
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TheWrenTheWren · 07/09/2023 13:15

Of course it is. Mind you, I wear black to weddings (as do large numbers of Italians and Spaniards), so many Mners will think I should be hung, drawn and quartered anyway, and will think you will remove the focus from the bride in photos, despite the groom generally wearing the exact same thing in the exact same colourway as the best man and groomsmen, and indeed, many of the other male guests.

Nightsku · 07/09/2023 13:16

Goldiebear1 · 07/09/2023 13:14

It’s this dress with a black shrug Cardy on top

Really? No you can’t wear that.

LittleMissUnreasonable · 07/09/2023 13:17

Absolutely not OP, I'm sorry. Out of all the colours, patterns and styles out there, that's pretty darn close to being 'bridal'. Come on now...

Aprilx · 07/09/2023 13:18

Is this a serious question?

Of course you cannot wear that.

🙄

justanothernamechangemonday · 07/09/2023 13:18

You can't wear that to a wedding. It's gorgeous but so against any kind of wedding etiquette.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 07/09/2023 13:19

Sorry I think that’s very bridal.

If you care about traditions, and not offending the bride, I wouldn’t wear that

foolishone · 07/09/2023 13:19

No you can't wear it unless you know for a fact the bride and the bridesmaids are not wearing white or champagne.

Original poster
Goldiebear1 · 07/09/2023 13:19

Thank you for your replies

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GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 07/09/2023 13:19

I would not wear that, no.

I can easily see someone wearing that as an actual wedding dress if they wanted a sleek, understated, non meringue look.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 07/09/2023 13:19

It’s not just the colour, it’s the style and cut as well

Aprilx · 07/09/2023 13:21

Goldiebear1 · 07/09/2023 13:19

Thank you for your replies

Edited

Perhaps you didn’t mind because nobody else turned up in a wedding dress? 😀

ilovemydogmore · 07/09/2023 13:21

It's a lovely dress but would need to be literally any other colour. You could dye it?

towriteyoumustlive · 07/09/2023 13:21

And there was me picturing someone wearing champagne dripping down them and nothing else...

The BEIGE dress is lovely but not really appropriate for a wedding.

StarBloo · 07/09/2023 13:21

I wouldn't be bothered if someone turned up to my wedding in a wedding dress, but I wouldnt wear that for a wedding as not all brides are chilled. It's too bridal.

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 07/09/2023 13:23

Ha. Very good OP.

I was thinking to say it looks at the very least like a bridesmaid dress, but I've just looked it up as it really does look very bridal, and it's actually marketed as a bridesmaid dress.

Of course you can't wear a bridesmaid dress if you're not a bridesmaid. Obviously.

To wear champagne to a wedding?
Nightsku · 07/09/2023 13:24

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 07/09/2023 13:23

Ha. Very good OP.

I was thinking to say it looks at the very least like a bridesmaid dress, but I've just looked it up as it really does look very bridal, and it's actually marketed as a bridesmaid dress.

Of course you can't wear a bridesmaid dress if you're not a bridesmaid. Obviously.

It’s ridiculous how it even needed to be asked.

It literally says bridesmaid dress.

PinkFootstool · 07/09/2023 13:25

Grossly inappropriate dress for absolutely any wedding except your own. Good grief.

VeridicalVagabond · 07/09/2023 13:25

I mean... Are you a bridesmaid? If not then no I would not suggest wearing a bridesmaids dress to a wedding.

foolishone · 07/09/2023 13:26

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HorseySurprise · 07/09/2023 13:26

Please don't - my mother wore this colour to my wedding donkeys years ago. She always said it was the colour that suited her best and in those days the wearing white etiquette wasn't as clear cut as it seems to be now, and I wouldn't have had the heart to say anything anyway. But a few people commented when looking at the photos that it detracted from my dress and I did feel a bit overshadowed. She was a great mum, dead now sadly, and and I am divorced now anyway, but I still remember that disappointed feeling.

I do wonder if anyone said anything to her because as far as I can remember, she didn't wear that colour to any other wedding, or maybe it was because as MOTB she felt it was ok.

frisseaze · 07/09/2023 13:26

I think it's a lovely dress and you should wear it. Some mumsnetters seem to have a colour code for attending weddings.

BarrelOfOtters · 07/09/2023 13:27

With black accessories - why not?

usernother · 07/09/2023 13:27

Looks like a bridesmaid or wedding dress. So no.

Howdoesitworkagain · 07/09/2023 13:28

Definitely not suitable for a wedding guest.