To wear champagne to a wedding?

[Goldiebear1]

Please can you help me -

I’ve found a champagne coloured dress and a wanting to wear it to a wedding with a black shrug, black handbag and black heels. Is it acceptable to wear the colour champagne? I don’t want to turn up and upset the bride - the dress is champagne and all accessories are black.

thank you ☺️

Absolutely no way is that acceptable though it’s a lovely dress.

Gorgeous dress

You will look like the bride

But you already know that

Gosh. If you had any respect for the bride and groom you just wouldn't wear this x

Thank you for replying - I sent a reply further up saying case close as it’s sorted now so know more time needed on this.

We were at a bridesmaid meeting, bottomless brunch when I sent the message. Bride had sent us 6 dresses and this one you can only get in this colour. So, like most of you have pointed out (some not so politely !) we thought it was too close to a bridal colour. We didn’t want to ask the bride as she wants nothing to do with it.
So I chose to politely ask on here…. Lesson learnt 🤣

However after the controversy it caused from some of these replies, we messaged the bride which we had wanted to avoid doing.

She fully intended that someone wore that colour and it wasn’t a mistake so case closed!

To the people asking why we are ruining the dresses with black shrugs - she’s getting married in Central Park in mid December and having roof top drinks. It’s needed! And to those asking about the different coloured bridesmaid dresses - that’s a thing where we live in America and it looks great!

Definitely not. That's quite bridal

I’m sorry OP if you’re a bridesmaid just text the bride a photo of the dress and say “is this dress ok or would it look to similar to yours/MOB?”

The style and colour are not acceptable for a guest.

Your biggest issue is that you didn't bother to mention in the original post that you are in fact a bridesmaid....honestly it's a massive key bit of information that would have changed all the replies. The 'controversy' is all of your own making. It's tedious and slightly goady to not give the full story but then be offended that you haven't had nice comments in every reply.

What a waste of time. Why not put in your OP that the BRIDE sent you the dress in the first place and that you're a bridesmaid, surely if she didn't like it she wouldn't have sent it. Also dress code for weddings in the US is very different to the UK and you hadn't mentioned your location.

I wouldn't personally

I wouldn't wear black with that. I would go for a rich burgundy or jewel green. The black will make it look rubbish. You need something to make it pop

Good luck - you are going to freeze your asses off! I hope for the bridesmaids sake none of the outside bits last to long. It's a gorgeous dress, but an odd choice for an outdoor wedding in winter.

So the bride sent you that exact dress knowing it only comes in that colour?! Then clearly she’s fine with it and I don’t understand why you’d need to ask.

That said, she clearly has questionable taste or hasn’t thought it through if she’s making the black shrugs compulsory as they will look awful against champagne. Sorry don’t mean that to sound rude but it really doesn’t go! So if I had the option to choose another colour of dress then I definitely would. They’d go great with jewel tones e.g. burgundy or emerald green which are probably more wintery anyway.

Also, is the different coloured dresses thing really that popular? I’ve been to several American weddings and never seen it. With black tie/ black tie optional dress codes I would have thought there’s quite a big risk of a bridesmaid wearing something identical or near identical to a guest. Different styles in the same colour seem really popular though. Just an observation though! I’ve only been to one NY area wedding so maybe it’s a regional thing.

Yikes 😳

I really couldn't give a toss if you wore that to my wedding but I've never understood the fastidiousness about the bride being the only person to wear white. Clearly I'm in the minority!

Maybe an alternative to the black shrug .

Depends on the colours and materials, but silver or gold shrugs might work better than black.

@MysteriousShopper op isn’t a guest, she did a major dripfeed that she’s actually a bridesmaid and the bride has asked her to wear the dress. Why that wasn’t included in the opener who knows