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To wear champagne to a wedding?

93 replies

Goldiebear1 · 07/09/2023 13:12

Please can you help me -

I’ve found a champagne coloured dress and a wanting to wear it to a wedding with a black shrug, black handbag and black heels. Is it acceptable to wear the colour champagne? I don’t want to turn up and upset the bride - the dress is champagne and all accessories are black.

thank you ☺️

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Itwasntmeguv · 07/09/2023 14:35

I think you'd have received some very different replies if you'd actually said in your OP that you ARE a bridesmaid 😂

DiscoBeat · 07/09/2023 14:36

So a bridesmaid is asking us what to wear, instead of asking the bride. 🙄

ThePoshUns · 07/09/2023 14:37

Ooh no definitely too bridal sorry

Whataretheodds · 07/09/2023 14:39

frisseaze · 07/09/2023 13:26

I think it's a lovely dress and you should wear it. Some mumsnetters seem to have a colour code for attending weddings.

The etiquette for weddings in the Anglican tradition (ie wedding that would have been in a church if they'd taken place 150 years ago) does include certain colours being out of bounds, yes.

You'll know if it's one of these weddings if the bride is wearing a mid/maxi white or white- adjacent dress, the groom wearing a morning or lounge suit, the bride entering walking up the aisle, ushers and bridesmaids, the vows being derived from the church order of service.

Unless you can be confident that the ceremony is a DEFINITE departure from this model then it is rude to turn up in black or mostly black, or white/white-adjacent or mostly so.

You will always find people on here that would be fine with it. They are not the people whose opinion matters for that particular wedding.

Whammyyammy · 07/09/2023 14:39

100% No.

ThePoshUns · 07/09/2023 14:39

Eh you're the bridesmaid? Now I'm confused.
What does the bride think is probably best.
What an odd post.

BeachHutCornwall · 07/09/2023 15:00

This thread has got to be a piss take

crackersforcrackers · 07/09/2023 15:01

Not suitable I'm afraid OP.

HorseySurprise · 07/09/2023 15:02

Fancy not mentioning in the OP that you were a bridesmaid! Wish I hadn't bothered with my previous post now, what a waste of time.

crumblylancs · 07/09/2023 15:03

Personally it's too close to white even for a guest, as a bridesmaid absolutely not

Spottyhousecoat · 07/09/2023 15:08

My wedding dress was this colour!
100% no surely out of the millions of bridesmaid dresses available there's another colour!
It's not about you.

BIossomtoes · 07/09/2023 15:13

crumblylancs · 07/09/2023 15:03

Personally it's too close to white even for a guest, as a bridesmaid absolutely not

On the only occasion on which I was a bridesmaid all our dresses were white. 🤷‍♀️

EvilElsa · 07/09/2023 15:20

Oh gosh, no OP.
I wouldn't have given a shit as a bride personally but it's you'll be getting side eyes galore from guests.
I don't really get the bridesmaid pick your own outfit thing with no specified colour theme. Own style, absolutely. But won't you all just look like normal guests in random coloured and styled outfits?!

PinkFootstool · 07/09/2023 15:20

BIossomtoes · 07/09/2023 15:13

On the only occasion on which I was a bridesmaid all our dresses were white. 🤷‍♀️

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And presumably the bride picked the colour scheme.

OP has been told to pick a colour but surely it goes without saying that white, champagne and off white are not in the list unless specifically stated!

Bansheed · 07/09/2023 15:24

THAT is a terrible faux pas in the making. Cannot believe you have seriously asked this

Despite the dress being lovely.

Bansheed · 07/09/2023 15:25

BIossomtoes · 07/09/2023 15:13

On the only occasion on which I was a bridesmaid all our dresses were white. 🤷‍♀️

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Anecdata. And if you were all in the same colour, the bride appears to have chosen the scheme?

BIossomtoes · 07/09/2023 15:28

Bansheed · 07/09/2023 15:25

Anecdata. And if you were all in the same colour, the bride appears to have chosen the scheme?

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It was a response to the poster who thinks it’s unthinkable for bridesmaids to wear white/ivory/cream/champagne. It turns out that the bride whose wedding is the subject of this thread wants one of her bridesmaids to wear this colour.

Moveoverdarlin · 07/09/2023 15:29

Looks very bridal so I’d say no.

BlueKaftan · 07/09/2023 15:32

I wore this colour to my own wedding!

Wiii · 07/09/2023 15:36

Oh you're a bridesmaid. Fucksake.

thecatsthecats · 07/09/2023 15:59

frisseaze · 07/09/2023 13:26

I think it's a lovely dress and you should wear it. Some mumsnetters seem to have a colour code for attending weddings.

I happily told my friend to wear white to my wedding. I only remembered afterwards that she was not only my friend but my husband's ex!

But I would not advise anyone to wear a white dress, or any colour that comes up under the standard colour choices for wedding dresses. Not the same as caring myself.

In fact, if you're going to second guess yourself, just pick something else! They are literally a billion dresses out there, pick a different one if you're worried. Random internet people can't take away that anxiety from you.

Regholdsworthswaterbed · 07/09/2023 16:08

No way. You might actually end up wearing champagne if you turn up in that

MissMillyFluff · 07/09/2023 16:10

YABU

That's actually very similar to my wedding dress.

MixedRaceMuslim · 07/09/2023 16:12

I would check with the bride but I wouldn't think it was a great choice to be honest in case the bride is wearing champagne.

CuteCillian · 07/09/2023 22:34

Strange indeed for Bridesmaid's to wear black cardi's, over what is a beautiful dress.