Our DS is often asking us for money. Last year he was promoted and earns 65k. He does have student loan repayments taken out of that and his mortgage is 1k a month. We know these details as we provided the deposit on the house last year.
He often says he’s struggling for money or he can’t afford a meal out etc, but doesn’t directly ask us for money. It’s making us feel uncomfortable as we don’t want him to struggle but also we are not hugely wealthy. We gave him 50k last year as a house deposit and thought that would set him up. He’s 28 and had saved 20k himself but that went on legal fees and towards the deposit, moving costs etc. He has no debts.
What would you think in this scenario? On the online calendar 65k seems a lot even after a 1k mortgage, which we do appreciate is huge.
AIBU?
To think this is surely enough to live on or are we being stingy parents?!
iopg · 06/09/2023 18:26
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLmonsteramunch · 06/09/2023 18:29
What would I think? I'd think he's a cheeky shit who is either very entitled, making catastrophic financial decisions or both.
buckingmad · 06/09/2023 18:33
Tbf he probs doesn’t take home as much as you think. Student loan will probably be £250 a month, then pension contributions. Then assuming he has commuting costs?
But yes he should be able to make do. He’s probably just trying it on, just don’t do it?
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iopg · 06/09/2023 18:28
Sorry should say he doesn’t directly ask for money to pay for meals but will ask towards essentials, for example last week he asked for help to get blinds fitted downstairs as house didn’t come with any.
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