To reply to sarcastic family member who wasn’t invited to wedding?

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I’m itching to respond but I know it would be childish.

A relative we’ve met only once has posted a sarcastic message on another family member’s social media (likely not realising we can see it) saying “please thank Pithy and Mr Pithy for our wedding invite but it didn’t arrive in time 😂”

We’re more amused than annoyed. It was a lovely small wedding with about 50 close family and friends. Sarcastic relative seemed really nice but we’ve literally met them once some years ago (it’s a somewhat long lost family scenario).

So, do we leave it? Or reply saying sorry you weren’t invited? Or think up a pithy response?

Do nothing ..your silence will speak volumes. Keep your dignity it doesnt deserve a response.

I'd comment 'who dis?'

But I am petty.

Don’t respond

I'd ignore.

people are hopeless.

Don't respond but be ready for decades of ghosting or bitchy comments or other family members being drawn in somehow.

(Bitter experience.... distant cousin of DH told me 'we are on holiday when you are getting married so don't bother sending an invitation. ' So I didn't. nearly 30 years later and it's still a source of bother apparently as they complain long and loud and draw others into their affronted umbrage).

If you did want to make a statement you could just send a facebook like emoji thing! Depends on how you feel! Sometimes petty feels good but other than that I would stick to my original advice!

I'd reply, 'Shame you didn't get the invite in time, we really missed you.'

posted a sarcastic message on another family member’s social media.
You do nothing. It wasn't directed at you, it doesn't require a response from you at all. This is the SM version of eavesdropping imo.

It sounds to me like they’re just making a bit of a light hearted joke of it? And maybe you’re being a bit sensitive?
You say you’ve just had a great wedding day, so just enjoy your newlywed time. No need to create drama xx

Just leave it, that sort of thing is just some people's unfunny sense of humour. Same sort of thing as when you have a bunch of flowers and some random guy on the bus goes "oh are they for me".

I agree with everything above.

This is what I thought too .

Ignore, it will wind them up no end but if you respond that provides fuel they’re fire.

I would respond with a laughing emoji.

That way they know you are laughing at them, and also know you have seen it

Emoji

I would just like the comment. They know you saw it, but no need to say anything. They’ll be mortified you saw it

No response is the loudest message you can send

Maybe their comment was self depreciating in a way? Really meaning, "it's a shame I'm not closer to pithy but here we are" but said badly?

I'd respond with humour, "We sent it via carrier pigeon, but it seems it got lost on the way. Next time, we'll use a faster bird!

The temptation to reply "So sorry, it was a small wedding so we had to limit invites to relatives we like".

Sounds like they were just joking. I think you are being over sensitive.

I’d “like” the comment, then they know you’ve seen it but you haven’t actually got to craft any kind of reply

Exactly what I was going to say - I'd ' like ' it

I'd completely ignore it.
They are trying start a little convo with the other relative and get a bit of sympathy as well as hope you'll see the barb.

If you like it, they've achieved their object. If they were just joking, no harm done, if they were being petty, it will annoy them more if you are blissfully unaware.

They want you to see it. The best thing you can do is ignore them completely.

I’d probably say. We wondered where you were but as we’ve only met once in 30 years we thought you’d decided not to come.