AIBU to think 👍 is rude

[SowhoamI505]

When texting, my pet peeve is use of 👍, is this just me who finds it rude? To explain why I find use of it rude, it’s been used in response to questions and some other situations like sharing a photo.

It just signals agreement and acknowledgement when you've got nothing to actually say.

I use it as a quick shorthand acknowledgement (especially if I'm at work where I'm not really supposed to be on my phone) that I have read a message if the message doesn't need an actual answer/if it's just a confirmation of something eg "Just setting off now so will be there to pick you up in about 10mins" or "Can you drop XYZ off on your way home from work?"

I also wear a smart watch so if I receive a yes/no question or a statement that I just need to acknowledge receipt of then I can just send a "👍" directly from my watch without having to go and find my phone to send a written reply.

I think 👍 is the new ‘LOL’. It means ‘I’ve just about registered what you’ve said but I have nothing further to add/want to move the conversation on’.

It can be used rudely though. I find 👍 to be a fantastic passive aggressive response to some silly rant by someone online. It’s a very ‘I don’t have anything else to say to you but I’ll be damned if I let you have the last word’ response.

It just means "got it". And it's more polite than "Roger".

🤣 good and true examples though

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Yes I find it very dismissive

I'm 55 and find it hard to understand.

You've written two sentences. One has a full stop at the end and one hasn't. I don't understand why one feels more "open" or even what that means. Can you please explain?

How busy would you need to me that you can’t write a few letters. 😂

Depends on the context. Fine when you're confirming details of a meet up or something and it's a closing 'fab, see you then'.
When DSis has asked me a question, I take the time to give a detailed reply, and she replies with a thumbs up or 'k' it makes me want to throw the phone at her 😂I've made an effort for you, and you can't be bothered to type 10 characters to thank me in whole words !

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Are you very young OP?
I'm in my 40s and Facebook was my first social media presence and in those days "like" was a thumbs up rather than a choice of reaction that we have today. Are the people using thumbs up my age group or older?

To me it means "ok" - which can be dismissive, which would come across as rude, or can be perfectly appropriate in the right context, in which it's not.

Why is it rude?

There was an article on BBC news recently about how the younger generations see this as a passive aggressive emoji. I don’t care really. I’ll use it as I mean to use it and good riddance to anyone who finds it offensive because that’s the sort of high maintenance contact I don’t need in my life

To explain why I find use of it rude, it’s been used in response to questions

So someone replied to a question eg "still meeting at 5pm today" with a 👍🏼 & you think it's rude & should have been a "yes". 🙄

I am totally with you on this. I find it really rude and get irrationally annoyed by it. I don’t care if I’m being unreasonable, it’s a pet hate. Like the respondent can’t be arsed with an actual response. There is only one thing worse than 👍, and that is… 😂.
Nothing… NOTHING makes you cry with laughter. The funniest story I’ve ever told in my life made nobody actually cry with laughter. So bugger off with that emoji. Ha! I’m such an awful person.

I find it incredibly rude too.

This is rude but you must find life incredibly tough!

Does anybody else find 👍🏼 annoying... http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/3917574-Does-anybody-else-find-annoying

👍 🥱, crack on....

… and those between 21 and 34? 😄

I find it rude often, when for example my parents (who, obviously, one would hope are a bit interested in their grandchildren) respond to any updates (not always positive updates) about their grandchildren with a 👍🏻

’Are we still on for dinner tonight?’ 👍🏻 would be a bit rude too - this person can’t be bothered to just text ‘yes! Looking forward to it!’ for example.

I do receive and give 👍🏻 happily but there are some circumstances it certainly seems dismissive/uncaring.

it completely ends the conversation for me if someone sends me that on its own

If someone only communicates to you with 👍🏼 & no other actual text ever then I would think you aren't really conversing.

Er..... that's a thumbs up sign?
Not rude.
I sometimes use it if I don't have time to reply properly, say I'm on my work break.
I've read your post, I'm thumbs upping you say you're coming round tomorrow morning or whatever.
Would you rather I ignored you?
Then no doubt youd be shouting ruuuuude! as I hadn't replied lol
Or if you send me a meme or a link, I might send a heart or a thumbs up as acknowledgement I've read and liked it.
What else do you want me to do? If you were wanting thoughts and a dissertation on your link, please say and I'll happily oblige.......

Nothing… NOTHING makes you cry with laughter. The funniest story I’ve ever told in my life made nobody actually cry with laughter. So bugger off with that emoji.

I've had tears in my eyes from laughing so hard, you obviously aren't that funny!

I only use in extreme moderation - anything remotely chatty and I consider it a bit abrupt. Emoji-react more often with a smiley face or a heart if appropriate. Or send a smiley face and a thumbs-up if literally no response required. I try not to read it abruptly from others though!

YABU. This is a bit crazy to me. Context is key.

Me - sorry I’m running a bit late for dinner, I fell over and broke both my legs.
Friend - 👍

Me - sorry I’m running a bit late for dinner, meet you inside in 10 mins?
Friend - 👍