I'm a regular but have name changed in case this is recognisable as I think SIL is on here.
I have a slightly strained relationship with my parents. It's not terrible but we are definitely not classed as close. They live at the opposite end of the country to me and have done for many years as I moved away at 18. They are elderly (both mid-80s) and very very set in their ways. No problem with that it's their life to lead as they wish. I speak to mum about once a fortnight for a catch-up. She talks at me and its usually one-way transmission, if I try to speak she just talks over me. That's fine also I can tick off daughter duties complete.
If they needed anything from me I would always help them. They are financially secure and as I said very set in their ways. They have never asked me for help.
They've decided they want to visit my teeny tiny house for a week long visit. Many years ago they did this and it was awful. They sit around and expect me to wait and carry for them the whole time. I work very long full time hours in a stressful job with 20 days holiday a year. They want me to take a week off to look after them.
I do not want to offend them. They are very strong willed and treat me like a naughty teenager most of the time (I'm 53). I give way to their way of thinking for an easy life, as I say once a fortnight is doable.
AIBU for not wanting them to visit? How can I politely tell them I don't want them to come? I've said I am worried about the long journey and will go to them instead for a weekend but they won't have it and are INSISTING.