i started a new job a year ago and it’s long 13hr shifts but with not much to do. I work as a receptionist in an office building that has a canteen and a bar that opens at four. The bar man works in the canteen for a couple of hours and has an hour free till he opens the bar, let’s call him Charlie. He always comes and speaks to me in his hour off and it’s a great break for me in the crazy long shift. When he first started speaking to me I didn’t quite believe him , I told my partner that I believed he made up his boyfriend and the fact he had a cat, sounds mad but he told me that when he was away the friend looking after his cat would just throw food in a room that it stays in and shut the door! I couldn’t help thinking about the litter tray? Also their was an office worker he was good friends with who loved cats and I thought he made up the cat story so he would like him, harmless enough I thought. But he’d apparently just got engaged to this boyfriend when I’d just started there but never really talked about him, he was always out every night and much more interested in telling me about that. In our speech we always pepper it with well my partner says this or thinks, does that but that never really happened with Charlie. I kept quiet and watched how other people who had worked there longer than me reacted to him, I was waiting for someone to come up to me and tell me not to believe a word he said but everyone loved him and they all had good relationships with him. I relaxed and got to know him as a good friend as he is a lovely person but my suspicions were always there. The wedding was suddenly in place within 6 months which seamed quick and was planned for pride weekend at my city. We all waited for invites that didn’t come till 2 weeks before the date so I didn’t buy an outfit just in case. The wedding invite was basic without hardly any information on it , I bought an outfit as there were so many people who had known him longer than me going and no one was calling bullshit. I checked the week before about the venue and found it was shut for a refurbishment so asked him he said it was still open for weddings he said he didn’t know what room so he would meet everyone outside to take us as he couldn’t remember where the door was. Even reading this makes me feel like a fool but there was a lot of us who we’re going. We we’re supposed to be going for food at a nearby restaurant and then a bar that was in pride which he said he had passes for us to get in for free. Also he said they’d been shopping for a ring but never wore it as he didn’t want to loose it in his catering job, he put it on on a night out but it looked a bit scuffed to me but it was a busy night out so didn’t think much about it till later. Anyway cut till the morning of the wedding when we get a txt saying wedding is totally off as his boyfriends , niece’s young son is in hospital with breathing problems and not expected to last the day! There has been silence on the wedding group chat though about 3 people expressed concerns about the child, not spoke to anyone as waiting to speak face to face, I don’t know what anyone believes. It’s hard because it’s work but I can’t sit there and show sympathy for such a lie ! It’s such a shame because we all loved him and he had no need to do this, know he always did like all the attention on him but thought he was just an extrovert but he brought so many people together who wouldn’t even have talked to each other if it wasn’t for him so don’t know what to do