Dh to take Dd camping?

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Dd is 5, I’ve been ill recently and sadly don’t feel well enough to go on a short camping hol, even though I want to.
Dd is desperate to go camping, it would be for one night (two full days) and around 1.5 hrs away.
I’m probably being really overprotective, but haven’t been away from her overnight, do you think it’s a good idea or you wouldn’t like it?

I think it will be ok. Does he have his head screwed on?

I woken that's trusted DD's dad but I'd left him before she turned 5. Assuming he's a decent father then absolutely- no question!

How do you tho I all us single parents manage? By the time my eldest was 5 I had a 2 year old too and still managed to keep them both safe

If your daughter has to be accompanied by both parents at all times, doesn’t that restrict what you can do? How do you shower etc?

@Cyllie33 What? I’m talking about an overnight trip away camping, of course she’s not accompanied by us both at all times in everyday life 🤷🏻‍♀️

If you trust her other parent to care for her then I really don’t see the issue. If you have concerns about her father causing her harm (do you?) then you need to say as that obviously makes a difference 🤷🏻‍♀️

Camping is brilliant. I take 2 of my 3 on my own. As a lone parent I pack, load the car, drive there, set up (with them trying to help), manage the whole time we're there and then do it all in reverse to come home. They're both boys too, thinking about toilet etc. Many places including the main one we go to have unisex individual toilet and shower rooms (so like a rougher version of a home bathroom) which works well. Obviously you take sensible precautions with safety but unless there are issues that haven't been mentioned it will be fine.

Ffs. Why on earth can't her father take her without it being a Mumsnet issue? Poor chap.

My DH took three out of our four away when the youngest was a baby. They had a ball and I had a lovely night with my baby. The eldest was six at the time.

They'll be fine.

You’re completely over the top. He is her DH and if she is likely to bolt at a campsite, she’s just as likely to do it if he takes her to the park near a main road, so if that’s the issue you need to have some different techniques with her.

The whole point of camping is they don’t beg left alone whilst DH does it all, they get involved - ‘helping’ put the tent up and sorting their sleeping bag out, helping with the BBQ with supervision etc.

I camp all the time and have done since DD was little. It’s a very good learning experience.

I do think you should probably also think carefully about how you address your anxiety with your DH - I would be so upset if my partner told me they didn’t trust me to care for our child.

Is your husband even allowed to solo care for your child? Is he aware you view him as incapable of caring for his own daughter?

How do you think single parents cope ?

I wonder if your five year old is as 'untrustworthy' (for want of a better term) as you're painting her to be, OP? Either way this sort of trip sounds like it would really benefit her.

My DP took our eldest camping overnight just him and her when she had not long turned three, because we didn't want to inflict our nearly one year old at the time on other campers overnight 😂. They stayed locally and we joined them the next day. No issue at all, she loved 'helping' to set up and knew when she was told to sit and stay on her camping chair, she needed to do so.

My point being that an NT five year old should surely be able to be told not to go out of sight when setting up the tent, not be a flight risk, etc. I get the toilet worry but I think I'd resolve that one by taking a camping toilet if they couldn't find a site with a family bathroom option, which would be my first solution to try.

This thread inspired me to take DD5 camping for a night this weekend. Thank you. DH ( a very reluctant camper) said “ok then” - not sure how to break it to him that he’s staying at home.

they will be grand! Enjoy the quiet.

OP:
Wee in night: bucket (or he might go behind the tent if it is a hedge)

Stopping her getting out of the tent while he is asleep (though would she? Really? Much more likely to wake him up in an exuberant way) Close the door with both zippers at the top, out of reach.

So many of us have safely and happily taken 5 year olds camping on our own and found common sense ways around everything.

Surely a parent does not need the permission of the other parent to take his child away for all of one night! He has every right to take her.

Of course it’s fine

Strapped in the car presumably

If you'd trust yourself to take her on your own, then you should trust your DH.

My friend treats her husband like an incapable babysitter and I don't get it at all, he's her equal parent.

Also to add... she's 5, not a toddler. She is probably a lot more capable than you think. I have a five year old and he'd love this.