Dh to take Dd camping?

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Dd is 5, I’ve been ill recently and sadly don’t feel well enough to go on a short camping hol, even though I want to.
Dd is desperate to go camping, it would be for one night (two full days) and around 1.5 hrs away.
I’m probably being really overprotective, but haven’t been away from her overnight, do you think it’s a good idea or you wouldn’t like it?

Of course it's fine, only one child is easy. How do you think single parents manage?

I think they should go. You are catastrophising as well as being too controlling - this will be good for you as well as them. The chances of being abducted from a campsite are so vanishingly rare that considering that as a genuine issue is concerning. I’d be more bothered about whether your daughter wants to go and dad thinks he can cope. If yes to both then they should crack on and you, kindly, should start unwinding a bit. Being protective is a parent’s job, being overprotective is damaging to both you and your daughter and your relationship.

Lots of campsites have family bathrooms, so he can potentially take her in with him if just having a wee. What would you do if you were on your own and needed a poo? I’d probably get her to stick her foot underneath the door and just chat to her.

It’s a great idea for both of them though. You need to be able to relinquish a bit of control and let them find their own feet.

Some people do. But that makes their thinking unhealthy too.

I travelled overseas with DD, alone, from 3 months old. My then DH had far fewer concerns than you're having over a single night of camping.

He has taken her camping for years. Campsites are generally full of families, with lots of children, family bathroom facilities, and no traffic - not dens of iniquity.

This level of anxiety is extreme.

With her father???? YABU Let her go. They’ll have a great time.

Your DD is not in existence to satisfy your emotional needs.

And by the way he spends ages having a shit because you're there. When you're not, he won't sit for 40 minutes on his phone.

What?!! OP, have you had help for this anxiety? Because it’s really not normal and definitely not something you want your children to pick up on. before your subsequent responses I assumed this was a troll thread. Of course they should go!

My husband took my son, then aged five, camping in France on his own. They've been camping together ever since. Son has ASD and loads of other difficulties including severe dyspraxia. He finds putting up a tent very hard so it's mostly just been DH doing it. To be frank, it's time your lively daughter learns to do as she is told and some independence. If Dad says you can only play in x area where I can see you then that's what she needs to learn to do - she does it at school. Your husband will be fine and they will have a blast!

They’ll have a great time - my dh regularly will take one or two of our kids without me, they just go have adventures. If you’re poorly the rest would probably be good for you too.

Have you spoken to your husband about how you don’t trust his parenting skills? Does he know you don’t think he’s capable and you’re the only one who can look after her safely?

Fathers are parents too.

Ok thanks everyone, obviously is me being over anxious, not sure why really. I‘m not too attached to Dd and she has lots of independence really, I always keep any anxieties to myself, just this one I suppose and again, if it was a hotel/someone else’s home, I wouldn’t feel like this

OP you’re really not helping your daughter being like this. This is a tiny step towards independence from you. this is vital and you HAVE to do these things to parent well.

Let them go and let them both learn.

It sounds like a great idea, theg get some daddy daughter bonding time and you get a proper rest. Why do you not trust your H ?

1 adult & 1 child? I don’t get the issue. I’ve been camping with 2 children on my own. It was great fun.

Mumsnet makes me laugh / despair sometimes
You get posts like this one about DHs not being trusted / not able to cope with their own children by the Ops, then you get posts from frustrated / tired mums who say their DHs don't help them with their own children.

Good to see your update@Dontmentionchristmasyet , it's nice to see a poster take on the sensible advice given and come back to post that they've seen the error of their ways! Too many OPs run off and never update and posters are left wondering what the outcome was.

Hope they have a fabulous time, it will be a great time for them to bond. Hope you also get some rest and feel better soon!

Good grief - this level of anxiety and need to control and lack of trust in your DH is not healthy at all. I would say this camping trip is essential for all of you.

Seriously?

I’m a widow, I took my four year old and six year old camping six weeks after my husband passed. I did it completely solo and we all thrived. Kids loves the freedom and they never got lost, stolen or injured. You need to let them go, they will have a ball!

My colleague regularly takes his now 6 and 4 year olds camping. Sometimes even when mum is away for work. My spouse takes our 7 and 3 by himself to all sorts of spots. What's the issue?

It’s the big campsite thing and possibility of her wandering off/being kidnapped/walking into the road, it can all happen whilst his back is turned doing the bbq or putting up the tent etc etc
Does no one else think like this

No.
Or, if there are people who do, then they don't have a healthy attitude either.

You are being massively unreasonable. DH should be allowed to take his own daughter away for one night.

She is 5. It isn't fair for her to miss out on experiences simply because of irrational overprotectiveness.

Good grief, if dh had offered to take my dc camping, or away anywhere, whilst I was recovering from an illness, I'd have bitten his arm off.

Let them go. They'll have a great time, you'll have some peace. Win, win, win.