Is this ok for my birthday ?😔

[Thisnameneedschanging]

It's my birthday today and I have been unwell for a few days so feeling a bit low. I always put a lot of thought into DH and DS's birthdays and Christmas etc. I probably over compensate due to a pretty bad childhood.

Today I received a card of DH ( it's wasn't a birthday card) . A mistake which they both thought was very funny and that was it. DS did say I could withhold his pocket money next week and treat myself 😞, after coming back from eating out with his friends which emptied his bank account.

I have no interest in expensive gifts but I love when someone puts thought into something. I am 51 today and I know it's silly but I would actually like to pack my bags. I told them how I felt a few minutes ago and they were not nice.😪

I think the question of what they are like day to day really matters.

I know that people have far more to worry about but sometimes you just have days when you feel sorry for yourself. I have never expected very much in life and today got me down. Thank you all for the kind words.xx

Sending you some birthday hugs, OP.

I wouldn’t feel comfortable waiting till their birthdays or Christmas and then being equally nasty to them.

So I would let them know very clearly how insulted you are by their lazy, thoughtless rudeness, right now. Then take the evening or tomorrow off and fill the time with treats and fun, either alone or with a friend. Have a lovely time!

Can’t imagine this. Utterly thoughtless and devastating. My husband and sons always make a huge fuss of me on my birthday. They spoil me with gifts and write lovely messages of love and gratitude in my cards.

This is normal.

If I were you, I’d fuck off to a hotel for a few days and think about my future.

No OP, it's not ok, not at all. Your DH and DS should be feeling ashamed. My DH and I have been separated for over 20 years and we still acknowledge each other's birthdays. I would certainly be dialling back their celebrations a notch in future.

I'm sorry you are having such a shit day. All I can suggest is that when you are feeling better have a day out by yourself, or with a friend, treat yourself to something nice to eat and buy yourself something frivolous.

I'd feel rubbish too. You are worth more than a non birthday card and some pocket money. You know it and your family apparently need reminding. Take yourself away for a few days, book a holiday for one. You deserve it and they need a wake up call.

I'm sorry op. Your family sounds thoughtless and I would be hurt too.

It’s my birthday also today happy birthday.. birthday twin . I went to work to celebrate but got cake and wine ( wine for home ) to celebrate ..

I repeatedly told me teen all day yesterday to go buy me a card in the end he bought a good one but yes it shouldn’t be that hard

Book yourself in to a hotel, don’t tell them. Disappear for a few days and don’t respond to contact. Wait and see how long it takes them to give a shit.

I wouldn’t tolerate it @Thisnameneedschanging

Happy birthday 🎂
My birthdays are usually sorted out by myself - DP asks for a list and he gets the things I’ve asked for and hands them to me in their postage packaging. My kids are older now (pre teens) and buy me stuff out of Tesco, like a box of malteasers or impulse spray, they make a fuss of wrapping it up and making me a card, this means the world to me. It’s not the gift, it’s the thought and effort. Your DH and DS should feel thoroughly ashamed given that you out so much care into their birthdays.

Happy birthday @Starlightstarbright2 ❤️, enjoy your evening.xx

Have you let them know how upset you are?
I would let them know and ask them if they want to you to stop acknowledging theirs.

Happy birthday to you too @Starlightstarbright2 🌟 🍷 🍫

You poor woman, clearly you've lived many years with a disrespectful and selfish DH who has now sadly influenced your son to be the same :( They don't deserve you! Has anyone else celebrated your birthday? I hope so if not that's really sad....i don't blame you having had enough, sounds like you SHOULD leave, and find a kind loving man that you deserve!

Pack your bags and book a couple of nights away somewhere on the join account.

Resist the urge to make an effort for them next time. A taste of their own medicine may help.

Happy birthday 🎂 💐

You deserve effort

You deserve better

I am disappointed for you

Your son has learnt from his dad. I would have words with them both and keep his pocket money.

Your son is obviously following the example of his dad. I’d guess this isn’t the only example of them taking you for granted and treating you poorly. Making a change will be hard, you will need to consistently demand the love and respect you deserve and the lazy shits will push back whilst you do. Eventually they will learn (or you will divorce your husband) but just saying you are unhappy this one time is unlikely to effect a massive u-turn in their shitty behaviour.

Both selfish bastards.

💐 Happy Birthday 🥳

Me too.

That's utterly crap of them. Time for some harsh words!