to have got one of DS's nails painted?

[CuddleNinja]

Took 3 year old DS with me to get my nails done and actively offered him the opportunity, I usually take older DD but she was doing a sports camp and I always offer her... so it just felt normal for me to offer him. The lady instantly said how we can do 1 nail for him, which is the most popular amongst men and he nodded his head. DH isn't pleased, which honestly annoyed me because we had discussed our parenting decisions way before we had kids and were always on the same wavelength on stuff and he said he would have been all for it, if it was actually DS ASKING and the issue is that I am suggesting things that aren't "usual" at such a young age. He then added that it could have been a "less girly" design... it's a star by the way. Was I unreasonable here? Genuinely want honest answers, as I am just trying to raise my children in the best way and if it was wrong, it was wrong and I will actually take it on board but can't tell if it is me or DH that needs to shift views

I do like boys to look like boys and girls to look feminine.

Why?

I voted YABU because I don't think a nail bar is a place for young children. I go to get my nails done and also for a bit of peace and quiet- I don't want to be met with chatty toddlers 😂
Also, the chemicals that are in nail polish are toxic - I know because my nails have take 8 months to recover from a reaction to the gel polish whereby they all fell off!

@Brieandcamembert girl's clothes generally are much more restrictive than boys, so if you're dressing your girls in traditionally feminine clothes they're unlikely to be able to climb trees, run fast, and play in the same way as your boys anyway. At least not without hurting themselves.

I don't think it's women having a problem with nail Varnish it's men. A mail with nail varnish has no thing to do with being in a female space, it's interesting your assuming it's gender identity issue.

Many women will find it cute or even groundbreaking when he is three, but when he is 8 most of those women will want him out of their safe spaces.

But he IS three so what's the problem? And why on earth would wearing nail varnish mean he has access to female spaces? A nail salon is not female only.