I was single for a long time before meeting my partner. I have two DC and he has one. I currently earn 2.5 times his salary, and own my own home which I've reno'd split into two self contained flats and am renting out. I want my children to inherit this.
I also jointly own a rental property with my siblings. Myself and the children live with my grandmother who has dementia, so a familiar face (me) while she remembers us is with her all the time. She always told us not to put her in a nursing home and we promised. the children go to schools nearby and I work from home to stay with her, and she has carers through the week but not one full time, and sometimes she gets agitated because she doesn't recognise who they are. She is mortgage free, I pay bills.
My partner is renting a flat with his best friend and pays a lot with his ex for childcare for their under 5. I don't pay any childcare as my eldest is a teen and babysits my youngest should I need or my wider family help to care for my children as I am caring for our grandmother. I have savings, no debt except uni student loan. He has credit card debt.
Anyway my partner would like us to get married and move in together. He also wants another baby so we have one together. I'm not so sure. I do love him very much but not sure if it's practical financially to get married? Or am I being too harsh. He says I'm being too feircely independent. I'd love a wedding just the party but not the legal side. Is that a thing?!