Husband annual leave

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After providing my husband with my annual leave dates (I work in a team with several part-time workers, so my annual leave needs to work around theirs) six months ago, we finally sat down tonight to plan a break during my remaining week off in September.

All going well (i checked cat sitter was free etc), until he reveals he has not booked the time off, and his colleague is off for part of that week and so he can't be.

I became very upset, having taken his request to discuss a September holiday (and reminding him of my leave dates) to mean we could discuss and book. He called me histrionic for getting upset that we couldn't actually book a holiday because he hasn't booked annual leave. Apparently normal people book the holiday then get the time off.

I am both angry and feeling like i'm in the wrong. AIBU to think you book leave and then arrange a holiday when confirmed? And that 6 months is enough notice to sort your shit out?

Legally he does have to take a certain amount of annual leave so I think he is taking time off but not spending it with you.

Why haven't you been away for four years - surely you had a honeymoon last year? It sounds like he doesn't want to go on holiday with you OP, so go away somewhere great by yourself this time and think about whether you should stay married to this man.

Also, as a PP said, you don't have to work your annual leave around part timers. It should be everyone working around each other and first come first served to some extent.