We've exchanged and complete in 2 weeks - buyers want YET ANOTHER viewing

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We've exchanged contracts on the sale of our house - completion is in two weeks (we're in England).

Pre-exchange we accommodated multiple viewings - of course. We felt it was just part of the process and seemed fair enough.

We exchanged at the end of July. Since then, the buy has asked for (and we've accommodated) two more viewings, one really last minute while they knew we were on holiday and away (but we figured it out so they could come) and the second time one afternoon on a day they knew was a working day for us but was the only day/time that worked for them. We accommodated. They were here for four hours (the house is a pretty regular 4-bed detached house in a village - not some pile somewhere with a million rooms and corridors).

They're coming again today - for the third time. They've even asked me to push out a work call I have in case they need longer than 90 minutes here (I told them about that to try to get a sense of how long they'll be here for).

AIBU for feeling really quite put out??! The house is utter chaos - boxes everywhere, dust all over because we're actively packing. It doesn't look good at all and it's really stressing me out. I have been up until god knows what our the past two nights and up with the sparrows the following mornings trying to make things look a bit neater (not sure it's made a difference) but the more i do the angrier I get about it all. To top it off, the buyer sent us an email last night essentially saying "see you tomorrow" but jibed that "I guess you're more relaxed than we are". Well that's set me right off. I'm absolutely raging - they have no idea of all the shit going on in our lives at the moment (the house move is only one element and probably the least stressful one).

Please someone tell me I'm not being over-sensitive and they're truly CFs. Being tired and cranky isn't helping me no doubt, but we wouldn't dream of heading to our sellers' house now, when we'd been twice post-exchange already and when completion is in two weeks, so this is really pissing me off. I really need to not lose my shit at them when they rock up later this morning. Eeeeek.

Just say no, you've got too much work on and they can do their measuring in two weeks when they actually have possession,

If they call round regardless don't open the door.

In your position, I'd cancel today and refuse any further when requested - I wouldn't state it.

They can do all the measuring up they need when they are the owners. Right now, having exchanged and therefore legally bound, you're still the owners with no obligation to work round them.

They can wait.

Why do people need to measure in advance? There isn't usually much delay between exchange and completion.

In any event, people can still pull out if they notice something they don't like, the only upside is that you get to keep their deposit.

Why on earth do they need another 90 minutes to poke around when they're completing in two weeks? You absolutely should cancel. Tell the EA you've had enough and no more visits now.

FGS! You're working at home. Would you let visitors wander around an office if you were at work?
Probably too late to cancel them now, but make sure you kick them out in plenty of time for your meeting. Use words like 'I'm afraid I have to insist...' Try to get the backbone as they leave to tell them that you're very busy and won't be accommodating any more visits after this one.

Hmmm. When we moved last year we were actually advised by our solicitor to do a viewing between exchange and completion to check that nothing major had been changed in the property. So I don't think that in itself is awful.

But doing a viewing lasting 4 hours on a 4 bed house is effing ridiculous. And demanding to come at a time not convenient to you (ie when you have work commitments) is also not acceptable.

I wouldn't be stressing about making it nice for them though if you've already exchanged!

Definitely say no. We had two very short visits (one before exchange, one after), to do some measuring and the second we brought a plasterer to get a quote. I felt really bad we'd even done this! What can they possibly need to do.

You've been amazingly accommodating, OP, and they are taking the piss. I'd have lost it at the 4-hour visit, never mind yet another one.

Wtf do they want to keep coming back for? They've exchanged, they're committed to buying, they can wait till the house is actually theirs to do whatever it is.

YANBU and they are CFs.

I’d certainly put a time limit on todays visit then no more. I think it’s batshit that they stayed for 4 hours-what were they doing for 4 hours-were you playing hostess?!!!

What were they doing in your house for four hours?!

They are going to pull a fast one somehow OP.

Can a price be lowered at this point?

If so, this is what they are going to do - all of a sudden they'll "realise something" and not be happy. Their behaviour is not normal.

I would be cancelling.

You have already exchanged so nothing is hanging in the balance. Stop people pleasing and just cancel. They have had plenty of time in the house before today and if they are unorganised that is not your fault.

We had our buyers ask for yet another look round after exchange and we said no.

We viewed our house again on the day of exchange and completed the next week, so we had 2 viewings (plus umpteen looks at the right move photos) and this is a 5 bedroom, 4 bathroom house plus (previously air b&b) granny annexe with (too much) garden and fishing lake. What the hell did they find to do for 4 hours? 😳

Why are they coming , what is the purpose of their visit? What on earth were they doing for 4hours 😮.

You have exchanged, they can’t change anything now. I absolutely would not be tidying up for them, I would not be moving the call I would be pointing out that in two weeks time they can spend as much time as they want .

This is not normal

I think they're being very unreasonable, you should sack them off and get your keys back from the estate agent so they can't get in.
Sold my late parents house a couple of months ago, I was happy to let the new buyers go round with their architect as much as they wanted. But an occupied house you're trying to pack up? No way! 4 hours is mad, and if it's impacting on your work that makes this worse.

what the hell are they doing all that timer, measure up for a fdew pairs of curtains/ blinds,cancel you are ill. you are being a push over,

You've been very accommodating.

What on earth were they doing for four hours in your house?!!!! Oh and to expect you to push back your work call 😮
If you don't feel like you can cancel this morning then I'd be breezy and stress how busy you are and they've got 30 minutes before you have to get on. Be firm woman!

i hope your buyers realise how lucky they are OP, it’s a lovely thing you’re doing. Lots of people here calling you a pushover but being nice isn’t a bad thing! But yes, tell them firmly how long they have and kick them out when you need to.

Why exactly are you accommodating this while you are supposed to be working?

Don't go to any effort for them. And don't let them stay 4 hours!

Id make no effort to tidy up but give them a time convenient for you
but I can’t understand the drama they’ve no doubt spending hundreds of thousands of pounds I can’t see why it’s such a massive problem just comes across as being awkward

'No. My boss would absolutely not be happy with me taking hours out of my day for you to measure up.'

Tell them to jog on, and that is the polite version.

I actually find things like this excruciating to read - I mean, it literally makes me physically uncomfortable! Why do people have such terrible boundaries?!

This person is nothing to you, there's nothing about this that's complicated. Honestly, it's verging on masochism. Sorry, I don't mean to be unkind but it's nuts!