Dd12 has always had contact with her dad
it’s up and down sometimes she doesn’t want to go more often than not
I have tried a lot of ways as always been threatened with court
it’s standard she doesn’t want to go however there’s varying degrees of resistant
when she really doesn’t want to I don’t send her when she is a bit meh I do
however she went on holiday and enjoyed it but also said a few things such as he wouldn’t feed his younger child when they wet themselves, he got drunk and had to be walked out the room by his wife Ashe was nasty and a few other things. In general she doesn’t like him.
there is a bit of a difference in what they report she can see things differently ie she read out a message from
him earlier in a way that was a bit worse than what it was. Different perceptions
to me he always said ants to be with her have her around and loves her however she says he sneaks off goes drinking and feels she is there because his younger kids love him
he wants her to go this weekend for a special occasion she is upping the ante and does rasnt to go
I’m feeling like I just don’t push and if she says no on the day I tell him
he will have a go at me but I don’t care
however should I be pushing this more? I encourage her but it’s not working anymore.