To be annoyed with DH’s friends

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DH and I bought our house with some help from our parents. We’ve also both worked since we were 19yrs old. DH’s friends who spent 3 years after university travelling and working hospitality/ cleaning/ fruit picking jobs on their travels, tells us how hard their lives are and how lucky we are to own a house and have parents who can give us money to buy a house. Whenever we bring up a house problem or say we’re saving money for something (to do with house maintenance) they say something like ‘errr you know we’re still renting’. One of them quit her job last year and lived off ‘pocket money’ from her parents for months. She likes to tell us it’s ‘not HOUSE money’ whatever that means. DP just goes with it. They’ve been friends for years. And he tells me we need to be more sensitive to their position!

mini update- I suggested they 1) stop getting take out 2) stop going on abroad holidays 3) work full time or consider other means of income

Seriously? It's not your place to comment on other people's finances like that, no matter how much they complain.

What did you hope to achieve by saying that?

Ah right. Fair enough. Probably a sound way to get rid of them.

They sound like tiresome resentful dicks. Couldn't stand the attitude of asking you what you've done with your weekend and then disparaging the reply. When they say "Er, renting?" I'd say "Oh well, you did ask!"

I would find your husband blurting your business annoying and him telling youbwhat you can and cannot say very annoying.

He sounds like a tit.

Stop supporting him with these friendships and invest in others.

I would refuse to hang out with these 'frenemies' going forward and hang out with your own good mates.

Oh god don't give them lifestyle tips! You probably came across as smug.

definitely not being U they sound like absolute nightmares.
Up to you how you want to deal with it though. I wouldn't have been able to refrain from just telling them all this, (possibly "nicely", possibly not!)
The less nuclear options are either just avoiding them as much as possible and leave DH to make excuses, they're his friends and he largely caused the issue by telling them so much of your private info.

Or if you HAVE to socialise with them occasionally try and reduce your own irritation by making it into a game to amuse yourself, i.e. bingo, laugh to yourself every time you get a 'you're so lucky' 'creative career' 'live is for living' 'still renting' 'not HOUSE money' etc. comment. For the irony maybe stand up and call 'HOUSE' if you get a full complement of wanky comments. Or just go completely over the top in passive aggressively agreeing with them so that it becomes ridiculous but they can't say anything, because you're only reflecting their own opinions. 'Yes we are SO LUCKY to have parents who love us so much to give us money for a deposit, I can't imagine what it must be like to have parents who don't prioritise their kids that way and don't want to help their own children out.' 'I agree I would HATE to still be renting at your age, I feel so bad for you, you must feel so unsettled, as though you can't call anywhere your home...'