To think a family of 5 can’t survive on 25k take home?

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Just that really. We are f**ed.

Twins are unusual, unless you're having fertility treatment, in which case OP is BU for undertaking a treatment which could lead to having more children than they can afford to live with.

Again, it would be an unusual situation for OP to naturally have twins, then for job loss/injury to all fall so quickly.

Occam's razor.

Making more assumptions? We don’t know what age her kids are! They may well be 10, 12, and 14 and an injury recently occurred, or a job loss. I haven’t read anything that supports the children all being under 3, or twins, triplets, etc.

My point was, and remains, that it’s unhelpful to make assumptions such as “YABU to have such a large family without the means to support them”.

With only the title and one line with which to work, anything outside of the original question “to think a family of 5 can survive on 25k take home?” is just so much padding! Unless of course, you have access to some inside information that the rest of us don’t!

Is that you, OP? You also seem to have some insight as you are making as many assumptions as the rest of us.

Whatever the path that lead OP here, they have a large family without the means to support them - unless your opinion is that a family of five can survive on £25k take-home, then that is an undisputable fact.

Sorry to disappoint, but we were a family of 9! And I earn 72k per year, husband is on 75k (though works full time, as opposed to my measly part time hours!) and all mine are grown! So to answer your question, nope, I’m not OP!

Unlike you though, I feel for OP. Regardless of what led to her large family (I’ve never heard of 2 adults and 3 children being described as large before!) struggling, it must be awful to be in that position!

That's nice for you.

There you go with your assumptions again - we don't know how many adults and children are in the family - if it's a lone parent and four children, I'd class that as a large family. Most of my family, friends and associates have one or two children, because that's what they can afford. Very few have more, and although some of us have second families so there are technically more children, there tend to be larger age gaps and children are split between parents, and it's a struggle.

Twins are really not that unusual! My own twins were one of 5 sets in their year group at high school!

Also shit happens in life and circumstances change! My DH was fit and healthy when our 3 kids were born! He was diagnosed with MS when DTs were just over a year old and their old brother 3 yrs old! Eventually he had to give up work & we relied on benefits for a short time! None of this was what we expected when we planned our family! Maybe we shouldn’t have had DC ? Maybe no one should as you don’t know what’s round the corner? Or maybe only the wealthy? 🙄🤔

@Hoardasauruskaren or maybe you limit your family size so when/if things change you are better able to deal with it?