My partner works hard as do I, we both have health conditions that make us very tired. Got young kids. He often goes upstairs for a nap and doesn’t let me know, during a film or right after dinner, sometimes goes to bed for the night and doesn’t say goodnight. At weekends we make a plan and as I’m getting sorted I ask the kids where’s dad, and he’s went to bed again. I have no issues with him sleeping as he obviously needs it but I’ve told him time and time again that it upsets me that he doesn’t just say I’m going for a nap or that’s me away to bed. The fact that I’ve said and he keeps doing it triggers me more. AIBU?