If you never moved out of your home town

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What is life like?

Do you still go to the same pubs you’ve always gone to, socialise with the same friends, do you know people you went to school with?

What is it like? Why did you stay?

I love my life!
I don’t drink round here, I didn’t keep in touch with anyone from my school (but that was in a different town anyway) and I socialise with friends I’ve made in my adult life.
what’s it like? In what respect? It’s just a normal life to me. I stayed because dh and I both have family here and they were my support network when I had my dc young and now some of them are getting older we will form part of their support network. It’s also a really amazing place to live!

@TheChosenTwo Do you get bored of the same environment?

Do you think you're somehow better because you haven't stayed in the same town?

@ShutTheDoorBabe No. I’m curious as I often wonder if I made a mistake and how my life would have been.
Why jump to something negative automatically? Nobody is better than anyone else according to where they live are they, we all make difference choices.

I don't go to Pubs really, never did. I socialise with some friends from childhood, some new ones. Mainly new ones. I'm still friends online with old school friends. We bump into eachother occasionally.

I stayed because I wanted to.

Because I had a baby when I was 18 so I never had an opportunity to go elsewhere. I have a housing association property and no way would I give it up (lifetime tenancy) so the only way I could move is if someone exchanged with me and it's a third floor flat in a not very desirable area so I doubt there would be much interest.

I do still have the same friends I went to school with, they're brilliant people.

As for getting bored - not really, surely most people put down roots somewhere eventually unless you move every couple of years and that's a right hassle. I can visit other places if I want.

Interesting question but no, only boring people get bored! I have countryside and beautiful walks in one direction, city in another, amazing rail links, access to the seaside in under an hour, great facilities in my (very big) town, a wide circle of friends, awesome family minutes away…
If you’re the kind of person who gets bored of where they are, what stops you being bored elsewhere long term? Maybe there are people that just move house/area every 5 years as they get bored. I don’t know.

Yes, we stayed because we had jobs fairly locally, and wanted to have kids and knew we'd have childcare on tap with both sets of grandparents.

Tbh we assumed we'd move when the dc got older but they had very close relationships with my parents in particular and got settled into schools so we never did move.

We do still see some people we were at school with, and go to some of the same pubs (that have changed hands/been renovated several times since) but tbh I find it quite comforting. It's a small town and I can go shopping/for a coffee/to the pub and usually see someone I know.

It doesn't bother me at all as we travel a lot and where we live is conveniently located, but I do have a hankering to live by the sea so that's the plan/dream when DH retires in a couple of years.

I'm a Londoner & has stayed close to where I grew up. DH is the same, we met at uni in another city but just happened to be from the same area of London.

Most of our friends are ones from school.

Frequently see people I know.

Why would I get bored? I'm allowed to leave the town for day trips/ holidays.

Sorry. Probably my mood - dc seem to think they can be rude to me tonight so I read it in the same way!

I never moved away but I have travelled and I have a job that means I get to work in different places with different people each time I go to work so no, I don't get bored. I rarely ever see the people I grew up with, either.

It never crossed my mind to leave!

I can definitely imagine there is a real comfort in it and security, that’s so nice.

I’m still in the same town at the age of 56. It’s close to the big cities, excellent road networks, close to the motorway, and 5 minutes drive into the Peak District, Chatsworth House etc.

wherever you go now the high street is on the demise and you can get virtually everything online . I too don’t keep in touch with people from school, but have good friendships from previous jobs and good neighbours.

An old school friend joined the army and settled in Germany. He loves his life in Germany but comes and visits as much as he can, he misses it. I live in an area that is very friendly and accommodating (North Derbyshire), we talk to anyone, say good morning etc. When I was commuting to Sheffield myself and some friends were only on the train for 13 miles, by the time we’d gotten off we’d got everyone chatting. That’s how we are Up North 🤪

@frippu Its so interesting to me what makes some people feel as you do and others who can’t wait to leave. Do you really love where you are? Do you travel lots/get to see other places or aren’t really fussed?

I moved away to study and moved back.
I love the place, perfect mix of countryside and town, city within short drive. DH and I's family are here and we're very close to both families. We love that we can see family several times a week just by popping in past or them to us. I do still go to a couple of pubs I always have and do still sociise with some friends from school but have also made a lot of new friends in adulthood through jobs, dh and children. Also a lot of the pubs/restaurants/shops have changed/closed/re-opened as something else since my younger days of going out. And the way I socialise has changed in adulthood/since having children so I certainly don't feel like I'm still hitting the same clubs with the same people I did at 18. But I love that 90% of the time walking down the street/out for dinner/in the pub I'll bump into someone I know, I think I would feel bored/lonely in a strange place, maybe that's small minded.

I stayed, my friends and family all stayed, it seems more common for English people to move cities (I'm irish).

I'm 40 now so no I don't frequent the same pubs, I'm not really a drinker anymore. My best friends are my childhood/school friends. I like being near my big family. I'm not bored of it either.

I went to uni in Liverpool but was very happy to come home to Ireland at the end of my degree.

I travelled in my early twenties but no matter where I went I was always glad to get back home at the end of my travels. I love my city.

I live in the same town but I don't do many of the things that I used to because life moves on. Many of the pubs I went to when I was young don't even exist now. I've found new things in the area to do. It's not hard.

I'm a Londoner also. I've always wanted to live in countryside by the sea, but have never had enough money to make moving a viable option.

Most of my friends from school moved away because it's too expensive to find anywhere to live in London. Those who stayed were the few whose parents could convert a floor of their house into a flat.

I still go to the same places, same streets, shops, GP, cafes, at least, those that have remained, although I don't go to pubs much as I'm a parent (not many child-friendly ones in my area).

It's a lovely place to live in, so I'd only move if the new place were amazing.

im from London, no reason to leave. I meet new friends, have old friends, it’s not a small town mentality. I love that my kids go places I went as a child, it’s special to me.

@Snippit Very true, I’m from the North originally too

I have many different friends, people I met through work or the kids. I am not in touch with anyone I went to school with, but I do have friends who I have known since my teens. The pubs and restaurants have changed many times over the years so no I don't hang out in the same places. The Wetherspoons where I used to go as a teenager closed down a couple of years ago.
I still occasionally attend the same church I went to as a kid.
I stayed because my husband is also from this town, my family are important and I wanted to be near my parents. And I had no reason to go anywhere else - I moved away for uni but couldn't find a job in the town I loved to once I graduated so I had to come home. So once home I got a local-ish job, made friends through work and church, got reacquainted with old friends in the area and just built my life there including meeting my husband.
Where else would we go?

Funny enough, I've experienced that fake pity from those who pretend to feel superior because "they didn't have to leave". I guess everyone has their defense mechanisms.

Not sure if it counts if it's London ...but I still live in the same area of London I grew up in... live two miles from what was our family home . My friends are my old school friends. I left to go to uni but that's it.