Poorly child and sulking DH

[Cantdoright86]

Youngest dc(2) was off nursery yesterday as he was sent home with a temperature late Wednesday night. Was better yesterday but not right. I was away with work so dh was at home with him and eldest dc(8)

I was back today, youngest went to nursery this morning (no temp, bit grumpy) 2 hours later they called to say he wouldn't eat his breakfast or snack, didn't want to play and was inconsolable, it wasn't asked but suggested he wasn't well enough to be there so I went and picked him up (they did suggest getting him checked out by a doctor but I think it's just a cold)

Dh has flipped saying I am wrong for picking him up, that he has played me, and that he knows if he acts ill he'll get sent home now (should point put he's 2 and 2 months) I said i thought Dh was wrong saying that and I was upset that he would have left an upset child there. I didn't ask dh to do anything as he had planned to take eldest out for the day so I could juggle calls and things and look after dc

Dc does seem OK, was tired and cuddly this morning (sat next to me watching Thomas the Tank engine on his tablet while I worked) but has been more active this afternoon

Was I in the wrong to pick him up? Nursery are used to dealing with upset children but they said he was very not like himself

He's abusive and trying to train you to be controlled by him. Please see a solicitor and speak to women's aid and get out. This is an awful way to live and will damage you and your children.

He shouts in your face for an hour. Nothing you do about parenting is right. He thinks you should have left your POORLY TWO YEAR old at childcare??? (From a purely practical perspective the childcare my dc are at would issue a formal warning and then terminate your place if that happened again and with bloody good reason). Do you realise you are in an abusive relationship? And your Dc are in this too? If you leave him, they will have a safe place with you. Can you think about what that would look like? I know it seems frightening as obviously he would be the biggest angriest dickhead you can imagine about separating, since obviously if you only agreed with him about everything and cheerfully went along with being an aggressive, nasty and borderline neglectful parent then your relationship would be perfect <in his eyes>, but I think it’s what you have to do.

I bet your e h expects sympathy when he's ill, but he can't bring himself to feel sorry for his own poorly 2yo? What a peach. 🙄

At 2yrs 2 months he’s not old enough to play you, what an idiotic comment.

Well I would like to say things have got better today, but no.

Tried to talk last night and ended in a other argument. Was also told on top of everything I don't do enough around the house (neither of us do really but I do the majority or nursery and school runs, load and unload the dishwasher, all the clothes washing and putting away, he cooks dinner if he's here and not on shift and hoovers)

I will be making plans to get things sorted and looking into options tomorrow

Good woman.

He is a nasty waster.

You so deserve better.

Reach out to family and friends for support.

My 2 year old is a bundle of energy, she's always on the go and really happy apart from the odd tantrum, when she's ill, she absolutely tanks, she's quiet, she cries a lot, she's cuddly, she's ill basically! And it's very obvious that she's just not herself. If my DH acted like yours I would be furious with him. Taking the food away that they were struggling to eat? Turning the TV off 'because they were taking too long'? and you LET that happen??

Are you for fucking real?? If you want to be a doormat then that's fair enough, but you need to stand up for those children, that's your job.

OP he sounds like a controlling twat, screaming in your face over minimal things, getting enraged because a 2 year old child is poorly HIS CHILD. I’d tread very carefully, this is not the type of behaviour anyone needs around there kids, walking on egg shells, scared of making a mistake etc very damaging behaviour.