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Not everyone is happy on A level day

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Alevelwoe · 17/08/2023 12:42

Firstly, well done to all those who've got what they needed and commiserations, plus fingers crossed, to those that haven't.

A level results day makes me feel unsettled every year.

I'd always wanted to do a hard-to-enter vocational degree but had struggled to get offers. I knew the chance of my getting what I needed to gain my only offer was very low, and had no idea what I might do instead. Context is that my teen years were pretty unhappy and I was desparate to leave home at all costs by the time I was doing A levels. (In fact if I hadn't been a very self-directed learner with a clear target, I'd have dropped out years before).

I did miss the grades and it was about 3 weeks before something came through clearing for me; all was well in the end but I still remember how hollow I felt in those 3 weeks, and how "stupid" too; I was the only one of my friends without a university place (though I had actually performed better than some of them, who'd applied for different courses).

But the other thing that stings more is that my parents had gone on holiday with my younger siblings and left me to it so I dealt with this on my own. Whenever I read comments from parents about how excited/nervous/proud they are, it cuts me a little.

Now this was 40+ years ago and I have largely let it go, ie I don't think about it for most of the year, but A level results day triggers me every year and I go back to that horrible isolated, hollow feeling of that time in my life.

No AIBU, unless someone wants to tell me that I am being U in not forgetting. I wish I could.

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notusual · 18/08/2023 18:15

I'm not overly keen either! I went to what is supposedly the best sixth form in the country in the early 1980s and did dreadfully! All of my peers were getting As and Bs (pretty rare in those days to get all As unless you were super bright) and I was a C/D result.
My two youngest went/are there too and I was terrified when they started expecting them to be the same - hate it and feel tiny -but so child 1 did amazingly and got what was needed, and child 2 is hopefully on their way. It's a horrible stressful and reminiscent time for me too!

Sushilover14 · 20/08/2023 01:35

@Bory in this context - totally - I can see how stirling was no good for your chosen career trajectory. I was alright, but looking back I was lucky to get my studentship as I’m not sure how far I’d have gotten with a first degree in sociology without the masters and PhD. But to be honest, that would have been the same at a lot of other places too. Although, perhaps better connections at the more prestigious places.

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