Aibu to think this is just a big social no no? Before I start it's worth me saying I am not on a diet. I'm a size 6 and for my height and activity level this is entirely sustainable. This post isn't about me just not wanting to hear about diets but rather and observation that generally this topic of conversation is awful. I have really noticed recently how depressing it is to be around people that constantly go on about dieting and who monitor food. Just the other day I was at one of my fiancées relatives houses for dinner and from the moment we stepped foot inside all conversations seemed to go back to weight and dieting. It started when I mentioned that I'd donated a lot of my old summer clothes this year and been wearing the same things over and over ( the conversation was about a bootfair me and fiancée did before starting to pack our stuff up to move house ). His relatives response was 'well you can at your size'. Fair enough, most would see this as a compliment I suppose and I'm not thin skinned enough to say this is a problem but what followed was 'it must take a lot of work though, we aren't eating lunch at the moment'. I never know what to say to these sort of conversations, especially as the 'we' she was referring to was her, her dh and her daughter ( adult ) living with them. It would be so rude of me to comment and also I'm there to have a nice time with them not give a shit about how many calories they're allowing themselves that week. So the conversation about bootfairs and clearing out cupboards had made its way to weight territory. Next was dinner, this time another guest discarded of the fat on their meat and made a point of mentioning it when it could have just been left on the side of their plate so everyone else eating could enjoy the meal, but no instead it was 'I had to cut the fat off! Way too much'. Again, what do you say to that? Dessert time we are all asked how much we want as the chocolate torte is being cut into slices, que the 'oh no that's way too big less please' comments whilst the tiniest, borderline insulting slither is cut of an indulgent but lovely cake someone has made about bought along. All night conversation naturally goes back to people's weight no matter how it starts...'saw Teresa today, she's doing well, you actually wouldn't recognise her'...and it doesn't end there. In my office today as we all eat lunch at our desks the conversation inevitably drifts onto what we're all eating, whether it's healthy, so and so has cut down on cheese, on the other side of the room we have someone just eating salad. I don't care what anyone eats or weighs, it's none of my business & I don't want to ever talk or hear about what people are eating either. I feel sorry for anyone trying to lose weight in the room when these conversations are bought up but it surprises me how common place they are. Aibu? Is it okay to talk about weight/fat/diets so much or does it just make everyone feel miserable and awkward like it does with me? How do you shut down the conversation or divert off it when it keeps going back there? It drives me mad!