Husband stormed off

[Eeett1]

Husband just stormed off as I told him I’m upset we’re not intimate anymore. He said it’s my fault as I fight everyday with him. For context I don’t fight everyday, I just get upset sometimes as he’s so cold and unloving with me. He’s not a sexual person at all. We only had sex to have children.

Once youngest was conceived 5 years ago we stopped. I just feel so rejected by him. I can tell you last time we had sex as it was the day I got a positive pregnancy test so since then he’s never tried. I’ve tried but he laughs and just walks away. I just feel my only role was to give him children and now my job is done.

I get upset every morning as I imagined cuddling up with my husband watching tv and holding hands etc. but none of this has happened. I’m just saying this for context and not a boast but I am attractive and slim. I don’t want to leave him for religious reasons. I will never divorce him and I cannot imagine being with another man. I feel so lost and lonely. I would like to have sex again. I’m in my late 30’s

@Eeett1 can I ask if you are of Muslim heritage. because if that is the case you can definitely divorce him from a religious perspective (a) because he is denying you intimacy (b) because he is an arse (c) he is cheating (d) he is openly defying islamic principles

the financial stuff is more tricky....

Imagine looking for work, and being offered a designer bag in exchange for oral sex.
Seems a bit odd that's the way the convo would go.

Does your husband have quite odd ideas about women and their motivation for handbags?

How would he feel if someone did that to his daughter (or son) when they were looking for work?

He clearly quite wants sexual activity. But not with you. That's unreasonable behaviour, whatever your beliefs.

Leaving won't be easy, but is possible and he's wrong about you getting nothing. The practical steps e.g. applying for housing benefit to pay for a shelter place will be supported.

Put your effort into working this out rather than trying to unpick his behaviour or motivations. You are allowed opinions too.

Lots of women here can give you advice and support.