Grandparent has fell out with DC

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DC is 2.5 and is under investigation for SEN. Recently they wont speak to one of their grandparents (nothing has happened between them). Grandparent has now cancelled upcoming visit as says no point coming if DC is going to cry when they see them. We were all due to go to Spain next year and that is also being cancelled. They are done with DC and dont wont to know them anymore as they say DC is being rude. AIBU if I go no contact with grandparent because of how they are treating DC? Family say I am because they are saying DC caused it. I am honestly baffled as they are adults in their late 60s and DC is 2.5!

Sadly a few GP and people in general don't want to understand SEN and in their heads they're blaming you

It's quite possible this GP has SEN issues themselves which is why they can't get their head around the idea of SEN

It's very sad but just visit other family members and keep away from this particular GP for a while

It's probably do you and your DC the world of good to keep your distance

It could very well be that GP has done or said something unpleasant to your DC in which case stay well away

I think you have dodged a bullet with the holiday in Spain.
They sound awful.
When this happens are they giving instructions on how your little two year old DC should be treated and expecting you to comply? ie are they saying its lack of discipline. Have they said do xyz or we will go NC?
I'd let them!
Little ones can easily pick up on disapproving vibes. The worst thing you can do to a shy child is demand their attention and tell them off for being rude.

They are ridiculous and I would 100% be keeping my special needs child away from them. I have a severely disabled child who has never spoke and ignores everyone, yet he is adored by all of his grandparents!

I’m with your toddler on this one - the grandparents sound best ignored.
I can’t believe what I’ve read - they are throwing their toys out of the pram because your toddler won’t speak to them?! WTAF?
I would tell them to grow up.

I think you should be glad they have cut your son out of their lives, these people are vile and deserve no part of your little one's childhood. Keep them away from him.

My god what have I read! A 60plus year old saying a 2.5year old is rude

they obviously don’t hear the bit about possible SEN. I would certainly stop all contact, the child doesn’t deserve people like this in their life

My late mother was like this. She has many issues but I could not let her have a relationship with my young DC as her toxicity would have affected them too much. You are better off without her OP. So sorry.