Dating in different cities, being safe, where to meet?

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I have met someone online, not dating app, and like this person. He actually seems too good to be true.

We chatted then met up. I'm in Liverpool, he's in Congleton.

We met in Crewe 7-10, then obviously I had to get the train home.

If he's genuine, not a murderer or worse, then he's the nicest person I've ever met. Home and business owner, kind, caring, good to the kids he has.

How would you proceed? I am attracted to him.

I need to stay safe, I have a child, though she is away sometimes at her dad's.

How do I ensure he's safe? I am extra cautious. I thought about asking if I could meet one of his friends or family. He was happy to know I shared my location with a friend during our meeting. Is that outrageous to ask?

Also any ideas on where we can meet?

How can you verify someone? I am really not wanting to be murdered.

When would you invite him to your home? Would you go to his?

I think men who always give money and always see his children don’t feel the need to say it.

The 5 kids by 3 women is a red flag.

Anyway, be cautious, you are right to want to put in measures to be safe.

Don’t give him your address.

Always have your own way of getting home.

Most murders are at the hands of someone the victim knows- maybe don't get to know him too well.

Dark but true.

@CherryMaDeara I kind of feel safer in my home than in a hotel or his home

“Some kids with a few women.” , it’s not going to end well.

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FFS, could your bar get any lower?? "I'll have any partner who will let me live"

Time to get back on the apps OP

This man is clearly not a catch so I don’t see how you’re finding worse on the apps, or by hideous do you mean how they look physically?

I’d hope by your 40s you’d realise a man a bit less handsome with a decent character is better than one who is exactly like child but has children here and there everywhere.

A man who is exactly your type not like child

How old is your child? If your child lives with you, especially if they’re a minor they certainly shouldn’t be inviting this strange man over.

@ChristmasFluff Well yes it could.
I could have a million men if that were the only criteria

This guy's nice and attractive, I don't think three women having kids by him is an issue. I don't want a kid by him.

Raise your standards.
5 kids, 3 women demonstrates this is not someone to expect commitment from.

This thread is such a fucking downer. I get that I'm probably an old fogey, and maybe OP is right that "a decent relationship doesn't mean what it used to" but have we really descended to a point in social history when women are happy to open their legs for any man they feel sufficiently confident won't murder them?

For fuck's sake.

Sounds like op is blinded by this man's big dick energy and good looks.

How can you feel safer in your own home, he could end up stalking you, this is where you have your kids.. a hotel is more public and has CCTV if anything goes wrong. I don't understand how your logic works.

[Grabs 🍿] Tell us more about your dream bloke please OP.

Obviously not when they are here.