To give up on sleep training until the baby’s here

[EmmaOvary]

36 weeks pregnant with 3 year old DS. We’ve had some issues with his sleep in the past and used a sleep consultant who suggested some gentle methods which worked like magic. DS’ sleep was fantastic for ages, then a couple of months ago, literally overnight, bang. Nightmares, up every hour or for several hours at a time. The sleep consultant suggested some new methods which worked for a few days then didn’t. I am so so tired and last night I just lost it with DS, screamed and collapsed in a sobbing heap. He ended up going to sleep with my DH in the spare room.

AIBU to just give up on trying until the baby is here? Realistically this will mean him sleeping with us. I just don’t have it in me at the moment.

Has anyone had this disruption in the run up to a new baby and any tips to handle it?

DD1 was 3 when DD2 arrived. She coslept with me basically up till the birth, first night home she just went in to sleep with DH with zero fuss, now she sleeps in her own bed at 4.5 but does appear sometimes in the night and climb in with one of us.

I'd just do whatever gets you the most sleep for time being and not worry about it. IME they get there eventually and the stress of worrying about it and trying to 'fix' it is worse than the problem itself.

Thanks Clefable. Good to know! I think easy sleep wins are the way forward for now, you’re right.

When the new baby is here then that night will DS just start sleep training again in his own room? With all the change a new sibling brings to his life I'm not sure that would be the right time to also change his sleep?