to think that sometimes really nice people are just married to knobheads?

[Rachmumoftwo]

That about sums it up really. What do you do when you have a really nice friend but think their DH is a knob? I try to be friendly but he is just not worth the effort. But she is, and then I feel guilty.

meet her on her own?

love is a funny thing

Just be thankful he's married to her and not you!!

I have loads of friends who fall into this category. TBH, I find that after a few years, the friendship tends to fall away as I suspect the dhs probably feel the same way about me. Has to be a pretty good friend to overcome this.

Think it happens a lot. There's some kind of magnetic pull between nice people and knobheads.

Worryingly I think my DP is a nice person which must make me...

Oh he hates me- he is quite uptight and up his own arse, while I'm a bit of a hippy. He is small minded and bigotted too, and I have trouble biting my tongue. We are all going to a party on Saturday and while I'm looking forward to the party, cannot be bothered to make small talk- I will be subtle and avoid him.

Oh I'm a nice person and I'm married to a dickhead (albeit a very very nice one). This is according to all DH's mates

Rach, you could be describing my best friend's husband right there in your last post. Can't stand the man and the only person I know who can is my friend.

i've got one like that - she is lovely, hard-working, diligent, punctual, friendly.

Her dh, on the other hand, is a bone-idle lazy, dirty, inconsiderate git who (luckily) prefers to sit at home on his own.

I'm a really nice person married to a knobhead. None of my friends like him so now I just go out with my friends, not in couples.

It hurt initially but now I just don't care. Lots of people don't go out as couples anyway because of divorce etc, etc, so it's not the end of the world.

yes we were talkign abotu htis recently
and i haev a mte marreid to a nob who KNOWS he is a nob and awlasy jhas to apoligise for him

I was talking about this to a friend recently. We were trying to work out why we knew quite a few lovely women married to knobs but no lovely men married to the female equivalent.
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Disclaimer: while also knowing many couples where both partners are lovely, of course.)