My SIL is the sort of woman who takes being called a force of nature a compliment- she’s tempestuous, overbearing, full on - fun sometimes, moody swingy often but definitely the ‘family manager’. my DH has always felt pushed about by her but tries to set boundaries in ways that I can seem petty from the outside.
we had a big bust up tonight when we suggested 3 days as a family together was enough and didn’t need to extend it for an extra few days to visit Gma - had been with Gpa previously. She explodes, deeply insulted and though we tried to say it was no big deal but best to leave in a high we’ve definitely come out the bad guys. I thought she was miserable with us but she claims she wasn’t. Don’t know how to play it from here… I argue with my sisters fairly often and it never gets down to the big horrible question of whether your actually LIKE each other - but when the fundamental thing is that you don’t… what do you do? I guess AIBU to say that having time limits on family holidays is good?