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Children running around restaurant WWYD?

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AutisticLegoLover · 07/08/2023 13:13

Please could you tell me what you'd do in this situation:

In a hotel restaurant at breakfast there were two young children about age 4 running around and screeching. It wasn't clear where the parents/adults were that they were with. They were eating while running in front of guests who were carrying hot drinks and food from the breakfast buffet and going up to other tables and carrying on their screeching.

What would you do in this situation?

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Amispringy · 07/08/2023 19:03

And @LemonPeonies if you think it's "normal" to have someone picking up their teeth, then I'm glad we don't move in the same circles

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:04

@Amispringy why was that the only thing you wrre interested in to know what I would do? Ignoring my earlier responses saying I do not allow my child to run around in the first place 😒. Your attitude is that of someone uncaring of adults tripping kids up which is strange. Especially if you have kids of your own. So if your child randomly got up and quickly ran off and all these big brave pp's tripped them up and threw food on them, what would you do?

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:05

That comment was directed to people threatening to harm 4 year olds, of course a normal mother would protect their kid, including violence if necessary. Idiot.

WunWun · 07/08/2023 19:05

Amispringy · 07/08/2023 19:03

And @LemonPeonies if you think it's "normal" to have someone picking up their teeth, then I'm glad we don't move in the same circles

Without "taking sides" I am genuinely curious as to what you would do if someone purposefully hurt your child in front of you though? Not necessarily in these circumstances, but if an adult hurt your child on purpose what would you do?

Amispringy · 07/08/2023 19:08

@WunWun There are no "sides" to take.

If someone deliberately hurt my children (I don't have kids, I'm not a goat) I would probably call the police. If it was an assault. I certainly wouldn't have them "picking up their teeth". That would make me as bad as them

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:12

Calling children kids is common amongst all classes so that's a weird comment. Call the police, so you wouldn't put a stop to it yourself? Surely mothers instinct would kick in though, you'd just sit and watch? Normal parents put themselves in danger to protect their children.

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:14

Interested to know why you would care about moral high ground ie. Being seen "as bad as the attacker", when it comes to the interest of keeping your child safe

Brieandcamembert · 07/08/2023 19:18

I would directly tell the children to stop running around.

Gcsunnyside23 · 07/08/2023 19:20

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You're 'that' parent aren't you, the one that doesn't actually parent and let's their kids run about like headcases screaming with no concern for others.
If the kids weren't running about they wouldn't have tripped would they? They and their parent learnt a lesson though didn't they, actions have consequences

Gcsunnyside23 · 07/08/2023 19:22

And just to add no I wouldn't purposely trip a child or drop food on them, that's awful but so is parents not actually doing their job and teaching kids to act properly

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:23

@Gcsunnyside23 Clearly can't read? I stated in my earlier responses I don't even let my child run around 🙄. So you think it's fine to trip children up too do you? Actions have consequences as you said, so if the parent attacked you back you'd understand right?

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:27

I've stated several times now my child isn't allowed to run around. I just disagree with adults saying they'd trip them up etc, doubt they would though in real life. But you just take it out of context and ignore the fact of what I'm saying. Bored of saying the same thing.

fuckityfuckityfuckfuck · 07/08/2023 19:38

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 15:52

My son and niece are 4, when me and my sister take the kids out together they try this. We don't allow them to disturb people, we sit them down, distracted with toys/ books/ food etc if they get up from the table. Occasionally they'll get up and I'll have to chase them to stop them running around etc 🤣. I would be embarrassed though if someone else had to tell them off for me so I would say something in your position. However pp's saying they would drop food on/ trip the kids over? Seems like the type of people too scared to speak to the parents so pick on the kids instead 🤔

You said here you have to chase them to stop them running around.

Bandyarsia · 07/08/2023 19:41

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:27

I've stated several times now my child isn't allowed to run around. I just disagree with adults saying they'd trip them up etc, doubt they would though in real life. But you just take it out of context and ignore the fact of what I'm saying. Bored of saying the same thing.

If you have to chase them....they have a fair chance of tripping all by themselves.

Gcsunnyside23 · 07/08/2023 19:43

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:23

@Gcsunnyside23 Clearly can't read? I stated in my earlier responses I don't even let my child run around 🙄. So you think it's fine to trip children up too do you? Actions have consequences as you said, so if the parent attacked you back you'd understand right?

No actually clearly you can't read, I said I would never do that. Actions have consequences also applies to accidents, they can trip over someone or bang into someone and spill food on them and get hurt. How do you propose someone determines if its done on purpose before you act like a headcase and attack someone?

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:48

@fuckityfuckityfuckfuck everyone has had to stop their child running around at one point or did yours come out without the normal want to run occasionally? And me chasing them in the past means I'm stopping them do it. This post is about parents not even acknowledging the kids doing it...

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:50

@Gcsunnyside23 It would be quite obvious if someone stuck a foot out to trip them or or deliberately poured something over them. It wouldn't take many brain cells to determine that.

Bandyarsia · 07/08/2023 19:50

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:48

@fuckityfuckityfuckfuck everyone has had to stop their child running around at one point or did yours come out without the normal want to run occasionally? And me chasing them in the past means I'm stopping them do it. This post is about parents not even acknowledging the kids doing it...

I can HONESTLY say I have never had to chase my kids or my sister's kids around a restaurant. Ever.

Spencerfloral · 07/08/2023 19:51

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:12

Calling children kids is common amongst all classes so that's a weird comment. Call the police, so you wouldn't put a stop to it yourself? Surely mothers instinct would kick in though, you'd just sit and watch? Normal parents put themselves in danger to protect their children.

You can still protect and “put a stop” to someone hurting your children without resorting to the kind of retaliation you’re suggesting. Having someone “picking up their teeth” is not putting yourself in danger in order to defend your children.

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:51

@Bandyarsia do you sit them in front of a screen instead then or physically hold them 🤣

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:52

@Spencerfloral how would you stop them then? With words? 🤨

Bandyarsia · 07/08/2023 19:54

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:51

@Bandyarsia do you sit them in front of a screen instead then or physically hold them 🤣

No screens. No physical restraint. Just never had to do it. They were taught from an early age that they are not allowed run around restaurants.

MaMaMeeAah · 07/08/2023 19:54

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& so are many other people kick boxers
You'll meet your match if you try that
Just saying...

Spencerfloral · 07/08/2023 19:56

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:52

@Spencerfloral how would you stop them then? With words? 🤨

Perhaps try getting in between and removing your child from the situation while waiting for the police, instead of introducing more violence to the child’s life.

LemonPeonies · 07/08/2023 19:57

@MaMaMeeAah I doubt anyone with martial arts training would attack a child actually so I'm not scared.