To think the girlfriend in this case must be a mumsnetter?

[KimberleyClark]

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/aug/04/you-be-the-judge-should-my-boyfriend-save-his-post-gym-shower-for-when-he-gets-home-

Lol. That poster was hinged.💯🛁

I've been known to put my brolly in a bucket of bleach by the door, dettol wipe each finger nail and install new flooring after an Amazon courier walked in my house.

I love this series, but this is the most batshit one so far. Surely the vast majority of people just have clothes and are fine wearing them in the house or out of it? If there was a real risk associated with wearing your clothes and then coming in the house without changing, we would be seeing some kind of illness or problems associated with it. But we aren't. So it's completely safe and this is basically mental illness.

Reminds me of my SIL who used to have slippers that were OK to wear downstairs that lived by the front door, slippers that were OK to wear upstairs that lived by the stairs and slippers that were OK to wear to put the bins out that lived by the back door. She used to make her poor husband change his footwear multiple times a day. Oh, and outdoor shoes too. Then she had kids and strangely enough no longer has the energy to police footwear zones.

Hospital wards don't allow visitors to sit on patient beds and use the phrase cross contamination. I hear this regularly. Visitors have their behaviour corrected. I

Based on her logic Ive never been clean. Because I aim for all my showers to take less than 5 minutes (as is encouraged in order to save water....... for reasons of "The Planet", the environment)
Shes got issues.

I’m an indoor/outdoor clothes-wearer.

I hate the feeling of jeans and bras and anything remotely restrictive, so it all comes off straight away and I change into loose loungewear.

I don’t use public transport these days but if I did, I probably wouldn’t sit on my bed or the sofa in my public transport trousers. It’s not about germs. It’s about the filth ingrained into the seats of our knackered trains, the bits of chewing gum, the feet up, the blokes manspreading and dribbling their Carling and god knows what else. I don’t think it’s going to make me ill, I just don’t feel like my clothes are clean afterwards. I don’t think it’s that odd. Most people don’t wait until stuff is visibly filthy and stinking before they throw it in the washing machine, do they? They do it so it feels clean.

You’d have to be pretty fucking grim surely to come in from your day outside the house then get under the covers of your bed in your clothes. That’s utterly rank.

Several times, especially now that I'm not working. Incidentally, I just came back from a coffee and a walk and as my gallbladder was a bit sore I lay on my bed in the clothes I had been wearing outside PLUS my shoes. I will be going out for another walk soon, no way could I be bothered phaffing about changing clothes and shoes every time I go out/come in.

Nice to meet you however

I would (and do) sit on top of the bed in clothes I've worn outside. I'm not wild about my DH sometimes sitting / lying on an unmade bed ie on the sheet in outside clothes but I'm not fanatical about it. Definitely don't have a problem with sitting on the sofa in outside clothes. We do take our shoes off when we get in and I always change when I get in from a day in the office / on the train but that is about comfort more than anything.
I can MN is divided into outside/indoor clothes only and not too fussed people!

Bat shit crazy!

For the people who are very rigid about these things due to germs - what do you think will happen? Does it just feel gross to you or do you think you'll actually get ill? (Ok I get that in a post Covid world we all probably have a slightly different take on this) eg I like things to be clean in the sense we keep the house clean and tidy but I don't really think or worry about germs (and think I have a strong immune system).

Well, you’re not trying hard enough, you filthy creature!

@Merryoldgoat, could you explain the particular place ‘house clothes’ have in Caribbean heritage? (They seem pretty entrenched on Mn in general, regardless of heritage — people continually refer to ripping off their bra inside the front door and then changing into pyjamas as soon as they come in from work.)

I'd be most bothered by the possibility of fleas, lice, bedbugs and cockroach eggs, myself - all of which are found throughout the public transport system.

Never drop, oh come on now, ate those things really transferable? Lice live in hair

I have never thought about the indoor outdoor thing, and until covid never thought about germs, also take short showers etc - all the 'grim' stuff - my immune system is amazing

She was more than a bit unhinged

Fleas and bed bugs can definitely hitch a ride.

It never ceases to amaze me how smug and unpleasant mumsnetters can be over someone doing something differently to them, even though it doesn’t personally affect them in any way at all.

Tokyo it never ceases to amaze me how clean freaks go on about how disgusting other people are who aren't obsessed by germs

How do germphobes cope with indoor outdoor pets

Yes, they do. People shed hair and that can have them on it, you sit where they were 30 seconds ago (or you're standing squished up next to them) and the still live louse does what comes naturally - as I found when 22, untroubled by small children or close contact with other people and simply minding my own business on the train, thinking 'oh, what's that on my hair?', to realise as I picked the strand up that it was a headlouse making its way upwards.

"She's batshit crazy"
"It's a mental illness"
"This isn't normal"

They scream. The same demographic who revel in filth and dirt.

I do change a lot in the day but for reasons of comfort rather than germs. I have indoor slobby about clothes that go back in the drawers when I get into going out clothes. Going out clothes are taken off and hung back up when I get in. I don't wash them very much unless they get dirty which is rare.

Sometimes it's a cultural thing, sometimes it's a germ thing, sometimes it's a comfort thing.

What you do in your home is your business. However, it's interesting to hear about what people do. I don't know why it would be so contentious, since it doesn't effect you in any way.

I suppose it becomes an issue when someone you live with is trying to impose their ways upon you, and you don't want to live like that.

Oh I get that. The thread has moved on somewhat. I'm talking about the random strangers on the internet.