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To be annoyed at DH for reporting local FB seller to Crimewatch?

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overheadloudjet · 04/08/2023 10:31

DH uses our local FB for sale page to sell bits and bobs from time to time.

He noticed that a woman in our village sells a lot of electronic devices and began to look into her selling history and found that she's sold roughly 30-40 iphones and ipads over about 2 years. He counted 5 new and used iPhones and iPads sold in the last month, along with a handful of new Nike shoes. He decided that she must be selling stolen goods (her boyfriend is a drug dealer who was recently arrested and this factored in to his assumption) and decided to report her to Crime Watch!!! against my telling him he not to because A. He doesn't know for sure and was sticking his nose in and B. Was wasting Crime Watch time.

I am quite annoyed at him for being so nosy but mostly his overreaction. I told him to report to FB not to bloody Crimewatch but he went against my advice

He has been watching a lot of true crime lately and I think he thinks he's Detective Inspector Frost.

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WeWereInParis · 05/08/2023 09:49

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I always wonder what people with this sort of view would do if they were a victim of crime - let's say theft of some valuable jewellery. If someone "snitched" and you got your jewellery back, would you be so critical then?

SleepingStandingUp · 05/08/2023 09:57

as someone who's phone's recently "disappeared" and may well end up on a site like this, good on him.

Perhaps if you want to buy one from her, get it brought sooner than later eh.

Topseyt123 · 05/08/2023 10:05

Good for him.

This is exactly what Crime watch are there for, so exactly how is it wasting their time? Don't be ridiculous.

PowerToTheGnomes · 05/08/2023 10:08

Siouxiesiouxiesioux · 04/08/2023 12:23

I agree with her. He's a snitch.

Both of you need to grow up
You sound pathetic
@Hoppinggreen is right
For every crime there is a victim so think on

PriamFarrl · 05/08/2023 10:25

As for people knowing is DH or whatever, Crimestoppers is anonymous for a start and also anyone can look through Facebook selling and notice something like this.

Mygrandadwasmywingman · 05/08/2023 10:27

I once sniched on my ex via crime stoppers

I freely admit part of my reason was because he was abusive,refused to pay csa (he always seemed to have a lot of money,didn't have a job and 'she'll only spend it on herself' attitude) and had made my life hell for over 3 years-but he was also breaking the law

He was flogging counterfeit tobacco (the bit I snitched on him for)

I ratted on him-he ended up with 7 years because the tobacco was only the tip of the iceberg

He was actually flogging hard drugs,money laundering and had a hand in pimping out young girls (I know how to pick em)

(He was also claiming on the dole so he could wiggle out of paying for his kids-i didn't know at the time,my dad 'grassed' him up for that)

My call took a dangerous man (and others) off the streets and helped to stop some misery

I'm sure he knows it was me but can't prove it-i have no regrets

Anniegetyourgun · 05/08/2023 10:30

Anybody else wondering idly whether the OP was a reverse? I can absolutely imagine XH telling me not to report a possible crime for those very reasons, but can't imagine him telling the world that's what he'd said.

wlana · 05/08/2023 10:54

He was right to report her. I bet you’d see it differently if it was your phone that was stolen and being sold by criminals. 30-40 iPhones in 2 years and partnered with a drug dealer - doesn’t really seem like it could be anything other than crime!

Unicorn2022 · 05/08/2023 11:00

@Mygrandadwasmywingman you could have just used the word "reported" to replace snitched, ratted and grassed.

Mygrandadwasmywingman · 05/08/2023 11:12

Unicorn2022 · 05/08/2023 11:00

@Mygrandadwasmywingman you could have just used the word "reported" to replace snitched, ratted and grassed.

OK,I reported him
The police ended up with the bigger picture and he got what he deserved
No regrets at all

TooOldForThisNonsense · 05/08/2023 11:16

YABU

Good for him I say and so what if he doesn’t know for sure- he’s reported a suspicion, crime watch will look for proof.

BalletBob · 05/08/2023 11:27

Siouxiesiouxiesioux · 05/08/2023 09:04

“If you can't take it, don't dish it out 🤷‍♀️“

i can take it: I called myself a snitch because I have reported real crimes in the past - not what I guessed were crimes.

It is easy to misunderstand people on SM. There is no subtlety or nuance. You can’t see people’s intentions so in a way I get why you have come for me. I put out a throwaway line. I had no idea it would be so incendiary.

i feel that trying to respond to people on here is a waste of my time. I will not be responding to this thread further as I now need to engage with something far more intelligent than this - a good book.

It's not up to members of the public to decide what is a "real crime". That's the entire purpose of the police and Crimestoppers; to investigate whether a crime has been committed in the first instance. Someone reporting a potential crime so that it can be investigated is not a snitch. Nobody is "coming for you". I think it's probably for the best that you do step away from the thread if you aren't able to have an adult discussion.

Thoughtful2355 · 05/08/2023 11:31

No point reporting to Facebook, they can't prove she's doing something wrong so nothing would happen. Think he was in the right to be honest. Hate these disgusting people

TheHappyCarrot · 05/08/2023 14:45

It's almost like this is a made-up thread. 🤔

Lob it in, stand back and watch the show.

Doingtheboxerbeat · 05/08/2023 23:04

DisquietintheRanks · 05/08/2023 08:59

The privilege, if such it is, is earnt. Communities are just a collection of individuals who subscribe to a common ethos. When the ethos is "snitching is worse than crime" or "everybody does its so it doesn't matter" or "I don't want to get involved" then you reap what you sow.

Riiight! Fyi, I wasn't saying I subscribe to this way of thinking, I was just offering an explanation as to why someone wouldn't report. You, however have just repeated what every other poster is saying.

jezlifecoach · 05/08/2023 23:37

Clearly you’ve never been the victim of a theft. I had my rather new phone pickpocketed a few years again from a busy Christmas market - something I took pride in paying for as it was money from my first job and some little prick had to steal it. I hate this don’t grass people up nonsense - people that say that are just crime enablers. I’m glad your husband has reported the woman - maybe some of the goods can be retry and returned to their rightful owners!

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