Husband asked me to iron his shirts inside out

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I have been ironing my husbands shirts for years which I don’t really mind doing, it’s not the worst chore we have, but it’s very time consuming.

Now he’s asking me to iron the upside down and I think that’s crazy, is this a thing? I think it would be really hard to do it properly and it would just get wrinkled again straight away when you turn it around so I told him to iron his shirts by himself which he is now doing. He did have a moan about it though saying it’s ruining his shirts and it’s not how it should be me asking him to do his own shirts just because he’s asked me to do it differently. That he won’t just turn and ask me to pay for the mortgage tomorrow, which I think is unfair as he is a high earner and I earn basically just over min wage but work 40hr weeks and do all the housework and look after the kids.

I don't mind ironing even shirts, but why do you need to iron inside out? Most of our stuff is cotton so can take a high heat and I never use the steam thingy. If it needs to be damp (though I tend to iron when stuff is still damp anyway) I spray it. Synthetic stuff you just use a cool iron. Never had shininess.

But your DH sounds like a tosser regardless of the ironing issue.

My ex used to make me iron his shirts, no idea why he couldn't do it himself and I was a doormat back then, guy I'm with now I've never ironed his shirts and never will. If your husband doesn't like the way you iron his shirts tell him to get off his ass and do it himself. 😏

Tell him to fucking do it himself

I'm assuming you are aware it's bullshit that you work 40 hours a week and do everything else?
Well tbh, you are his house maid so if you choose to continue ironing for him it's best to do it his way so he doesn't complain. Wouldn't want the boss getting angry!

Shocked by the number of inside out ironers here.

Shirts are ironed right side out in a specific order: collar, yoke, cuffs, sleeves, front, back, front. Anything else creates creases and extra work. If you get shine your iron is too hot and you either need to do the modern solution of turning it down a bit, or if you’re a Victorian maid you wet a muslin cloth and press the clothes through it.

I never iron dh's shirts. He does them himself as the first and only time I did them, I tramlined his sleeves (accidentally on purpose). And we both work full time. DH also does the cleaning as I can't abide it. I do tidy but hate the vacuum and duster.

I used to iron ds' school shirts but he's working now so I run the steamer over them when I'm doing mine. He wears a suit so no one can see lack of creases in sleeves.

Weddings and interviews aside, we are a non-ironing household here, but when I learned to iron many years ago, I did learn to iron shirts inside out. There is something about the material going shiny. I suspect also something about if ever there were a mark on the bottom of the iron.

All that said, why are you doing all the housework and all the parenting work, and working 40 hours a week ? I think, that is the bigger question.

That he won’t just turn and ask me to pay for the mortgage tomorrow, which I think is unfair as he is a high earner and I earn basically just over min wage but work 40hr weeks and do all the housework and look after the kids.

He does not value your contribution to the household at all and thinks you should be grateful he's putting a roof over your head. Leave him ironing his own shirts. Do not offer to do it his preferred way, you've just saved yourself a job.

If he's finding it that much of an effort then "Mr I pay the mortgage" can find his own fucking ironing service. Say nothing more and leave him to it.

I notice lots of posters have been distracted by the best ironing technique for shirts rather than supporting a woman whose husband is taking the piss.

I do all the ironing and pressing, only DW & me now. Catch up on music and think.
Do iron some T shirts inside first and some tops with glitter and decorations
Some Military Officers don't have creases in sleeves. I don't.

I’ll admit, I iron DH’s shirts because he only wears them once in a blue moon (weddings/funerals basically) and if I didn’t, he’d happily go out looking like he lives in a bin.

However, the moment he expected me to, let alone dictated how I did it, I’d tell him fuck right off.

Tell him that the 1950s called and want him back. What a cretin - tell him to gtf and iron his own bloody shirts. I don't believe in ironing - never owned one, never will. Waste of time!

When my dad was a young man, his mother used to do all the housework, including ironing. His dad was a manual labourer and would come home filthy.
One evening his dad came home whilst mother was ironing one of dad's shirts. My dad asked her to re-do a bit she'd missed. Dad's dad picked up the shirt with dirty hands, balled it up, and told him that if he wanted that way he could do it himself. And by the way, the shirt was dirty, so he should wash it himself too!

So you work the same hours but because he earns more he thinks you should make up for that by being a housemaid he can order about? Fucking prick.

Tell him to iron his own fucking shirts.

DH used to iron his own shirts, and I did my things until dd was born. As he couldn't feed her, he took over all the ironing then. There's not a lot of mine but occasionally a few bits - but his shirts and some trousers, and dd's school shirts are a weekly thing.

That "baby" is now a strapping 17 year old, and I've done it on the fingers of less than both hands since (when he's really under pressure).

DH is a high earner, he sends his work stuff out for cleaning and ironing. I don’t want to do it and he doesn’t want to do it so reasonable solution.

He's a high earner? Then you get a cleaner in and outsource the ironing as well.

My DH once told me I didn’t pair his socks correctly when putting clean washing away. He promptly got given ALL his own washing to put away forever more.

My husband might also be a high earner (not sure given MN definitions tbh) with long working hours and I have always worked part time since the children were born. He's always ironed his own shirts! I think he's grateful that I do most of the laundry and cooking and organised the children's lives when they were younger.

I met a lovely woman at school whose absolute cunt of a husband thought he shouldn't have to even empty the dishwasher because she worked part-time and he worked full-time. I often wonder if she's still shackled to him.

I iron my some of my husband's shirts inside out depending on the fabric as some do go shiny if ironed the right way round. But I was always told that shirts shouldn't have creases down the sleeves, so it doesn't matter which way they are ironed.

Are you his servant? If I got this kind of feedback matey would be doing all his own chores.

Things should be 50/50.

Sounds like he’s lording his high salary over you. I’d tell him to shove it up his arse

Ironing inside out stops that horrible shine and makes garments look new for longer.

Maybe ask him why he suddenly thought of this if he doesn't do his ironing 🤔

Why do you do ironing anyway? I don't even know where my iron is.

"Are you seriously telling me you would immediately take on more of the household responsibilities if I suddenly made more money than you and we were still both working 40 hour weeks? Because I highly doubt it."

what an arsehole thing for him to throw at you re the mortgage.

If you are kind enough to iron his shorts, the only correct comment to make is 'thank-you'!
You could be a sahm and it still wouldn't be your 'job' to iron his shirts. You are looking after the children and that's enough. Grown arse adults are capable of doing their own personal chores.
I'm glad you've told him to go his own - don't let him treat you like a subordinate because you are earning less money than he is. I wonder how much money he'd be making if he had to pull his weight at home or pay for his 50% share of childcare and housework.