To feel weird on girls/mum night out

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I never go on them anymore, I’m mid forties but with a 5 year old dc, so many of my friends are a bit younger-mid-late 30’s, it’s not a huge difference, I'm not dowdy by any means. Before Dd, I travelled lots, went to festivals, parties etc and Dh and I really lived. Since Dd, it’s obviously slowed down, I meet with friends for play dates or lunches etc and we have drinks, but kids are always with us.
Went on a night out and whilst nice, I just felt a bit weird, standing in a bar at 1am doing shots chatting to guys (platonic, friend of one of my friends) was a weird feeling.
i came away feeling good, but also like I’d missed loads of living but also like I don’t know if I cba to do it again 😂
Am I just too old now? (depressing thought)
How often do you have girls nights out, if you do?

*Mums

I'm much happier staying home. I go for drinks after work occasionally but it's only ever for an hour. I'm very honest that I'm leaving at X time and when it's time off I go

@MollysBrolly Is that an age thing at all? I’m worried I’m not up to it anymore 🙈

It's not an age thing. I'm hurtling towards 60 and am often one of the last ones standing.

I don’t go ‘out out’ anymore. I’m 45.

I raved it up pretty often up until my late 30s (had kids at 27 & 30, so was still going strong post-kids!) but I just don’t enjoy it anymore. Stopped drinking a few years ago, and hate late nights. I’ll make a very rare exception for a good house party , but sod bars and clubs and drink people.

I still love music, dancing and socialising, though. I went to a daytime boat party recently, and a music festival one-dayer. I’m not quite ready to hang up my dancing shoes.

I'm 29 and done with nights out now 🙈 absolutely hate them and just not for me anymore. I've got a 30th next weekend that I'm dreading and will slope off when everyone is too drunk to notice!

@Kimfluencer Yeah, I think that’s it, I love a festival too and a boat party would be good, it’s that drunk, busy, everyone out at night thing 😬I don’t like dressing up lots either

I find with people not living close together and kids/babysitting my friends in early 40s we go out day drinking much more as easier for transport and we'd literally have no clue where to go of an evening now.
I did the pubs/clubs early morning finishes and kebab shops until my 30's then more restaurants/meals outs quiet pubs in my 30's now its a bit of dinners and a bit of day drinking I've had my time in the bars until late I don't want to do it anymore.
Except Christmas parties and then stop me!!!!!

30s here and since having kids, I just do not like going out for nights out anymore! Used to love it but hey ho.

I’m 30, childless and have been done with nights out for a few years now.

Although I do still occasionally crave a mad one 😬

@10oclock Yes, what is it do you think, the getting up with kids the next day? Or just leaving them?

Also who can afford it
I used to go out with a tenner in my purse now with contact less its too easy to spend an absolute fortune when out

Hard agree. Not an age thing. I’m hurtling towards 39 and I cannot think of anything worse than not being in my lovely bed by 10 pm. 2 full on careers, a toddler and a 7 year old and both spouse and I love nothing more than bedtime. We go out with each other and friends regularly but nothing that keeps us away from bed at a decent time.

I wouldn’t be the last person standing for love nor money.

today it’s 11:30 as I type this and we’ve just got back from Oppenheimer. Frankly, not again for a huge long while.

I kind of felt like ‘Why haven’t I been doing this all the time, see what I’ve been missing?’ But also…meh 🤷🏻‍♀️Weird

I'm 38 and childfree. I go out for drinks before a meal and will have 1 or 2 and will pop into a pub, but in general I don't do a night out. I haven't since I was in my very early 20s like probably 22/23 it's ok if it's just not for you anymore.

It's not necessarily an age thing. But I do think we get better at saying what we want and need as we get older!

I'm 42 and can't be bothered with nights out these days either. The idea of being out in a busy pub/club surrounded by loads of drunk people, feeling one of the oldest there, having to shout to be heard, the hassle of getting home, the expense of it all and the potential of a hangover. Not for me anymore! Happy to meet up during the day preferably not just to drink but otherwise count me out!

I went out today with 3 friends, all of us are 38, 2 are mothers and 2 are childfree.
Met at 3pm (the others met at 2pm) ...couple of gins, taxi into town to have a meal, 2 more pubs then lift home at 9pm. Was a nice day! I rarely do that, maybe 3 times a year.
Whilst I could have stayed out later I didn't really want to . Day sessions are better.

40 here, with one DD.

I still like a night out but it tends to be a decent meal, followed by cocktails at a decent bar (or bars), and a relatively early finish (generally midnight at the latest).

Occasionally will do a day session bar crawl type thing, and enjoy it but always finish early evening.

I don’t think it’s an age thing. I didn’t even like big nights out as a teenager! I quite like a dance every now and again (although prefer a ceilidh to clubbing!) but standing in a noisy bar doing shots does not appeal at all and never has. I’d far rather go for a meal or do something active and outdoorsy with friends or go to the theatre than go on a big night out.

Oh, and I still regularly go to gigs.

I am happy to go out but 1am? Far out, meant in a joke way

I need to be home preferable by 8.30 and watching TV in bed I leave middle of the night for those younguns

Had my first at 33, did our first moms night out when they were 18 months or so, walked in at 4 am! But it's a rarity. We just had cocktails and went dancing. Most Moms nights out these days are dinner, maybe a cocktail or two but home before midnight.

Girlie weekends away we tend to just stop in and hang out.

I think it's an energy thing more than an age thing. We're all knackered?!

A 'night out' means different things to different people.

Nights out - yes.
Shots in a bar at 1am - no thank you.

Not an age thing at all- it’s about you. I’m nearly 60 and still love a girly weekend away! I have grown up kids but dread the day the friendship groups stop.

I prefer a good cuppa and a book or YouTube documentary rather than nights out. Besides on random meets in a bar or club you never know who is really who, or what their personalities are etc.